BMs & Gov Aid
i have read some posts and some of you ladies are very familiar with these laws... Maybe you can shed some light for me:
If out of the blue, bm (cp) tries to get financial aid from the gov't, does it automatically trigger a financial review of ncp for increased child support? or does cp have initiate it?
and where can i find this info on the web (in fl), you can't get the same answer twice from anybody i have talked to in the cs system...
dh & i are currently going thru this, and i can't understand if you are an american and have a full time job (making more than min wage) plus receive cs and have no bills except ins., electric & cell phone that you can get gov't assistance. i guess bm is falsifying her expenses maybe?? is there a calculator ysed to see how much one qualifies for??
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My husband wasn't ordered to
My husband wasn't ordered to pay child support until BM received TANF benefits. When she received these benefits they made her/helped her go after my DH to re-coup some of their losses by providing her aid. When his CS case was opened he automatically started the equivalent of three months in the hole, as it was THEIR determination that that was what HIS portion of the TANF debt should be.
At the time BM applied for and received her TANF benefits, her husband was deployed to Iraq and was making an upwards of $3500/month or so according to the CS paperwork we ended up receiving. That, plus their income tax return which was about $7,000 should have meant she did NOT qualify. The impression I have gotten from others on this site is that social services agencies kind of turn a blind eye to glaring inaccuracies such as these. It is grotesquely unfair in my opinion.
I can't answer any questions for you about Fl, but that was our experience with BM living and applying for assistance in Indiana.
Based on HER household
Based on HER household income, she shouldn't have qualified to receive any type of public assistance. I was making a point.
we did pay bm directly and
we did pay bm directly and then when she started this state assist crap and we got notice that we were 6 months behind... so after we did the song & dance with every cs office and a court date, we have a credit in our state account.....
"get INCENTIVES to KEEP YOU
:jawdrop: "get INCENTIVES to KEEP YOU ON ASSISTANCE"
bm works in acct. rec. or something like that and she has been working with medicaid claims and it seems she's learning how to work the system and wants her piece of the pie for as someone said "to get others to pay the kids they didn't have the joy of making" not just dh, anybody she can screw over ~~ that's all of us tax payers
it doesn't surprise me at all
it doesn't surprise me at all that it is true.... some of the shit gov't agencies use tax dollars for is frightening! and that's just the tiny bit of stuff that is exposed to the public.
it was bad enough before and now i feel we're doomed with our new "transparent" administration...
Exactly, i'm just trying to
Exactly, i'm just trying to get a feel for exactly what to expect.. thanks for clarifying that for me spunki!
thanks for the info, and i
thanks for the info, and i don't really care what she qualifies for i care that she's trying to get a free ride and make dh pay more. and it's not for the kids, it's b/c she can and she's selfish. i don't know how much she makes, but i would guess approx. $30K or more
blended, you seem very knowledgeable in this field, do you have any online resources you can share with me?
i wasn't going to say
i wasn't going to say anything and just let you keep sening me the links....
Thank you everyone.......i
Thank you everyone.......i got some researching to do...
Good lord! wtf is ny law
Good lord! wtf is ny law makers thinking?
that is hideous! i can't
that is hideous! i can't imagine how they came up with those calculations.... if i were a male nyer, i would either keep my dick in a rain coat or get snip snip.....
my dh, got snip snip right
my dh, got snip snip right after ss was born ~~ bm said she was on bc both times she got knocked up.... dh said he did the snippy b/c he didn't want to end up paying for a third one..and they separated before ss was even 1 yr old, guess he didn't want to run the risk of getting drunk and fucking her and god forbid the procedure didn't snip right....
mb - reading your post and
mb - reading your post and seeing your happy avatar --- struck me funny as shit...
in my state, as far as i know
in my state, as far as i know bm signing up for govt assistance didnt trigger a child support order, because for 6 months bm didnt let dh talk/see sd (before there was a court order) and by the time court date rolled around the judge asked bm what type of assistance she was on and she said food stamps and state insurance. She sure as hell didnt try to get child support from dh during those six months either (like going to court and petitioning for it) because she didnt want dh to even see sd, so if she went after for child support she would have to let him see her.
it will be interesting to see
it will be interesting to see how it all pans out, i have been cyber researching with the info all you guys provided and the links Leia provided..... plus on the phone about insurance for skids since bm f'd that up, too with her need for free money..... ended up with a neck and head ache..... start again tomorrow...
then only to see skids tomorrow afternoon and all weekend... knowing it's not their fault, but at the same time knowing if they weren't here we wouldn't be having these issues..... separation of feelings, i really need to work on that.
thanx again speeps.