My soon to be husband and I are living together in my apartment with my 2 daughters. My oldest is 17 and will be 18 in 3 months. She has plans to move in with her bf and her attitude seems to be that she can do what she wants because she is leaving soon anyway.

While I feel her personality has gotten better and she is showing more respect for me, the new rules in our blended home (fiance has 3 children) are causing my daughter to be somewhat irritated with my fiance. Their history is not really a great one. When she first met my fiance he made her cry during a conversation in which she just got up and walked away. It seems that on a daily basis I am listening to my fiance talk negatively about my daughter and it's driving me nuts. He feels she is rude and disrespectful and I feel that he is trying to be her father and she doesn't want a new one. I would NEVER let my children be rude to anyone, and when my kids are I correct them.

It's causing a lot of tension between my fiance and I because he doesn't think she should be rewarded with things like going to the mall when the other kids are going because of her "disrespect" for him. I just don't see what he does and feel that he is being WAY oversensitive about it.