wonder bread
Two important facts:
1. SD5 is an extremely picky eater.
2. My DH's ex dislikes me and is historically passive aggressive.
SD5 was told recently by DH that she had to do better job eating the food that we prepare for her. She only likes very sweet and unhealthy things, and we are trying to introduce a reasonable amount of healthy food into her diet. When she stays with us, I prepare her school lunch.
SD decided that she doesn't like the bread that we use at home, and so she stopped eating her lunch. I asked her what she'd like instead, and she requested cheese and crackers, so I gave her that with other healthy snacks. Apparently, she didn't eat that either, so now DH's ex is SENDING HER OWN BREAD to our house in SD's backpack so that I can make sandwiches with her bread.
It really, really annoys me. I feel like ex is constantly trying to dictate life in our home, and so this bread was just the breaking point. I told DH to tell ex that we don't need her bread, btu I doubt he'll say anything.
I'm so tempted to write this woman and tell her she should start texting/calling/emailing me directly if she has issues, rather than just wordlessly sending packages of bread. I know this seems like a huge overreaction to something small, but it is just a recurring theme, boiling over.
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Ahhhhh.....the wonderful
Ahhhhh.....the wonderful sending things home with her to get a dig in at you. Boy I love this game. I learned how to win it a long time ago. Take the bread the moment the child walks in the door and throw it in the trash........don't let her see you though. Throw it away each and every single time and I guarantee you your SD will eat your terrible bread.
This makes me want to slap the stupid off your BM.
Keep it and then send it
Keep it and then send it back the next week. Bread is bread. Give SD5 healthy food. When she gets hungry she'll eat.
My Skids used to be very picky eaters and would want ham, mac & cheese and green beans every single night. I finally got tired of it and started making new stuff. They resisted at first, but when I told them that's all they were going to get to eat, they finally started trying new things. You eat what I give you or no dessert or anything to eat for the rest of the day.
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Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!
But leave the package open
But leave the package open so it gets stale and moldy }:)
Whooppss... that wasn't nice.
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
Funny! I did something
Funny! I did something similar -- I smushed it with the lunchbox and shoved it to the bottom of the backpack, so it became a big wad of untouched bread. It felt great. The day that I use this woman's bread for anything but toilet paper will be a cold day in hell. : )
The thing is, DH thinks I am NUTS and that she is just trying to be helpful. It is amazing to me how he can't see these little passive aggressive things! He only fights back when she is overtly aggressive (eg telling him I'm not invited to birthday party for SS7 that I helped pay for).
Ooh, I want to learn how to
Ooh, I want to learn how to make granola bars that are healthier and not held together with sugar!
Ok I've had a rough day and
Ok I've had a rough day and that made me laugh out loud, its brilliant!!
Oh, and please teach me too - homemade granola bars = yum!
"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy
That is hilarious. *filing
That is hilarious. *filing away in mental filing cabinet*
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
these sound GREAT. why has
these sound GREAT. why has it never occurred to me to make granola bars??? thank you!
I hate when BM sends food
I hate when BM sends food items to our house.
Ok, so one day SD needed to go to school with 2 jars of apple butter and since that day SD was sick, she couldn't take the apple butter to school, and since she said that nobody at her house eats that so she sent it with SD (who doesn't like it either) is like, WE DON'T NEED CHARITY.... WTF...
The good thing is that I tried the darn butter for the first time, and it was delicious, haha! honestly, I have bought several jars after that!!
Like a month ago, she also sent a gallon og apple juice with SD5, claiming once again, that nobody drinks apple juice over there.
I told DH that was the last one, if she sends something else, he needs to tell her that we don't need it, we can provide apple juice for SD here. and if they don't eat something at her house, she can throw it away!
HA!
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
EXACTLY! We don't need your
EXACTLY! We don't need your food, lady (even though we pay you all our money : )
Actually, someone needs to
Actually, someone needs to let BM know that SD needs to eat whatever is provided for her in your house while she is with you guys. And not spoil her sending "the wonder bread" from "mommy's house".
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
DH claims that he spoke to
DH claims that he spoke to SD about this on the way to school today. He told her that she needs to eat what we have in our house when she is with us, and she can eat what her mommy makes when she is with her mommy. SD was apparently not thrilled, and just frowned.
I am going on a one week vacation with them starting tomorrow. I already need a vacation from this vacation.
That is so funny! And, kind
That is so funny! And, kind of cute -- a happy ending!
I would send it back. We had
I would send it back. We had to do this when our shampoo wasn't suitable for Wilda's pretty pretty princess (nothing against SD, just making a point of how ol' Wildypoo thinks). We sent it back in her backpack & BF told her to get her nose out of our house.
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
HAHA... aren't they
HAHA... aren't they ridiculous?
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
It's completely ridiculous.
It's completely ridiculous. Just this week she sent over popsicles and kleenex b/c apparently we're incapable of taking care of SD when she's sick. I threw a stink about it, BF told me to ignore it even though it pissed him off too, and so set off my week of grump. It's so not worth it.
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
Wow... my BM is so cheap I
Wow... my BM is so cheap I would be suprised if she would send her kids over to our house with a single chip to eat.
I do have a little story about sending food home to the other parents house. I have a penchant for lucky charms... and dh decided to give his kids lucky charms. Well lo and behold, they would pick the marshmallows out of the box or their bowls and there would be the rest of the cereal EVERYWHERE!!! On the floor, on the table... just everywhere.
So.. hi ho hi ho... off to bm's house they go!!!! Well she called dh livid saying that never ever are lucky charms to enter her house again!!!!
Point of my story? You can do the same thing back. Find a really good kid friendly food that SD will like, that is not TOO bad for her. Fishy crackers, a favorite type of cheese, jello, etc. Try for something sticky and gooey, and they send it to BM's house and see how SHE likes it. I can guarentee that she won't!
Although I think that she may not be trying to do it to get you angry more than she is doing it to probably make her sure her daughter eats.
In my case I was doing it because I was trying to get rid of the darn lucky charms and didn't want to get rid of them because the little guys really did like them. I just didn't want them in my house. I told my dh the same thing tham bm said though.
This might be a little OT,
This might be a little OT, but I also HATE when BM "provides" stupid information, like we need her micromanaging every single detail.
For example, if SD5 is sick, she will send an email explaining "get her nasal drops... you can get those at X pharmacy for XY price" is like WHOA... without such helpful input we would have been lost (?)... -_-
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
Ugh, BM does this to us too.
Ugh, BM does this to us too. Like I don't KNOW what to do when SS has the runs. I have other kids... and get this COMMON SENSE. Dur... no spicy food??? REALLY... Lot's of water??? Hmm... what a concept! Telling US how to do the things that YOU FAIL to do, does NOT make you a good mom!! It makes you a MORON!
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
All your comments make me
All your comments make me feel so much better, because sometimes I feel like I am a crazy person, getting all upset about a stupid loaf of bread. Great suggestions, too -- thanks. Exwife always sends over these really tacky photos of the kids that her "photographer" boyfriend takes -- they are supposed to be "gifts" to us. (I've written about this before...) It always feels to me like such an intrusion into our home. I think what I will do is do the same back -- I'll take photos of the kids in OUR life, and then the kids can give them to her as gifts and maybe she'll begin to realize that it is rather offensive to keep imposing herself into our world.
I have a "special place"
I have a "special place" that all the pics BM sends of goes to... it's called THE SHREDDER!
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
I turned this one around on
I turned this one around on Wilda once. I had taken a picture of Wilda, Poor Sucker and SD at one of SD's school performances so she pretty much had to take one of us or SD would have asked why she didn't. I blew that sucker up to an 8x10, framed it and put in as the first picture in our hallway. I'm sure she loves that.
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
oh gosh!!! I'm so guilty of
oh gosh!!! I'm so guilty of sending food too! because honestly we won't eat it!! lol. thanks to you all, I will never be a food sender again!!!! thank you!! she probably hates me doing that!
Don't worry! If you have a
Don't worry! If you have a nice, open and friendly relationship with the stepmom then I suspect it doesn't make her angry (but maybe you could ask your former dh...?) In my case, I feel that it is another attempt to control and criticize, because that has been the theme for so long. Sounds like you are a more sensitive, considerate person than the birth mom that I deal with.
don't send photos, though. :
don't send photos, though. : )
I just read your blog about
I just read your blog about the photos! how awful!!! geez!!!!
And the junk food just makes
And the junk food just makes them wilder!
ours use to send sugary
ours use to send sugary snack and drinks with SS after her weekend visitations. I finally got sick of it and told her to knock it off because we were trying to be parents by feeding him healthy food and all the stuff she send out was being tossed anyway.
She was pissed but stoped sending stuff