Need advise...
I have a SD that is 35 years old and lives in another state other than ours. She has been our bi-polar child for about 10 years and just recently was diagnoised with Lupis. She has been daddy's girl from the moment we met 30 years ago and she has always gotten everything she wanted. Spoiled rotten from the day she was born. Her dad never sees any wrong in anything that she does. She calls every month for money, stresses him out by crying on the phone about her relationships and just recently lost her job so now she has no money coming in but expects daddy to pay for everything. She loves to travel but doesn't have the funds to do this so she just calls dad and he finds a way to help her out. We have our own financial problems right now and I just can't understand how she could continue to do this on a weekly basis....does she not know how this is effecting her dad's health? This SD is a slob and always has been, she doesn't pick up after herself and expects others to cater to her. I finally said that I am not her maid and she needs to grow up and get a JOB and live on what she makes and stop calling dad for money all the time. I'm very stressed out about this situation and need to find a way to make it stop. If I make a comment to her regarding our situation and all the money that she asks for, she will go to her mom and tattle that I'm being mean and then the ex-wife calls up the SD dad and tattles once again and then I hear about it and get greif about saying something to the SD. I'm really tired of the tattling and the whinning.
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all i have to say is aww,
all i have to say is aww, hell nah! 35 years old? I'm a daddy's girl, but not to that extent. I feel bad for her that she has those medical issues, but guilty parenting on your H's part is not going to help the situation. Does she have children? A husband? Stepchildren?
No, she doesn't had any kids
No, she doesn't had any kids and I thank God for that....we would probably be raising them if she did because she can't handle her own affairs, I couldn't imagine her having children of her own. She is often in crisis with boyfriends because she can't keep them. I think she gets depressed and they don't like the "down mood" all the time. It's like she's on a roller-coaster most of the time.
Oh no - I am crushed to hear
Oh no - I am crushed to hear this behavior goes on that long!! Please God no!!
Is there any way you can take over the finances? and let her try to get past you? lol
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It never ends....trust me on
It never ends....trust me on this one. No matter what, they always pout,cry,and try and distroy your marriage because they are not the center of attention with daddy anymore. This SD has tried to break us up from the moment we met 30 years ago. My H finally told the SD that he was not leaving me so stop it! She then pouted and hasn't tried the breakup thing since but continues to be a pain in the wallet as well as a mental pain.
I think this is a DH
I think this is a DH problem. Yes the SD35 is a lazy b BUT you can't stop her from calling.
I would put all my energy into DH. He needs to learn to stop catering to her and enabling this lazy behavior. I don't know your DH so I can't say what the best approach is but I think he is the person to be upset with.
And why the hell does he care what this ex thinks?
He was married to the ex for
He was married to the ex for 10 years and ended up in divorce because she messed around with someone at her work. She has since then been married to this other man and had another child who is now 26 years old and she is divorced from him. The ex also has bi-polar as well as the son that she had from the second marriage. This has been going on for 30 years where the SD will complain to the ex and the ex will call my H and tell what I have said to the SD and chew him out. I am really tired of being the third person in this relationship when she comes into town....which is today, she is flying in because she can't stand staying with her Mom. Thank God she will only be here for a week. We have a return flight already for her and I know that we will not get along while she is here and she will pout the whole time she is here and her Dad will go along with it. I'm thinking that I will be staying at work longer this coming week.