Advice on NCP requesting medical records please!
Have any of you or your spouses requested medical records on your non-custodial children? Did you include the parenting plan with the request to avoid any questions from the doctor, or did the doctor refuse to give the medical records until seeing something stating that the NCP had the right to get them?
In our situation, BM is very controlling and I fully expect that she has probably told all of SS's doctors that BF is not to have access to his medical records, even though they have joint legal custody. I am debating on whether to include the parenting plan with the request for records just to avoid any issues that may come up due to this. I'd appreciate any advice!
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BTW - the request will be
BTW - the request will be coming from BF, not from me.
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My DH is in the same
My DH is in the same boat.... BM will not give him information on anything basically. So it was written in the court order that she is too notify DH of school, doctor and extra curricular activies within 5 days.
Well she does not give any information and even wrote a letter at the counselor's office, school and doctor's offices that DH was not to receive any information. DH provided then a copy of the court order showing joint custody and is supposed to get the information......
And they give it to him directly...... So if they have joint legal custody - he can get the information by using his court order.
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No, we have not had to deal
No, we have not had to deal with this issues. My Wife is the CP for our Son (my SS). BioDad has never requested his medical or academic records.
However, neither my Wife nor I would have a problem getting him copies of the records if he ever did ask for them. As much as I detest the worthless piece of shit he is my Son's BioDad and I would honor the promise I made to my Son (SS) and to my Wife 15+ years ago that I would never deny him (SS) access or a relationship with the SpermClan.
Now SpermGrandMa I would not give the time of day or a second thought to. I would not piss on the psycho bitch if she was on fire. Actually I guess I would piss on her, but only after she had burned to a crisp and the flames had died down.
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If he has joint legal
If he has joint legal custody, he should not have any trouble getting medical records from the source.
He should also keep a written list of times and dates that he works on this kind of stuff, since CP probably was supposed to provide him with all this information in the first place.
Technically, he shouldn't
Technically, he shouldn't have trouble, I agree...but I don't think the doctors office would know that he had joint legal custody unless we told them, because if I know BM she has probably told all of SS's doctors that BF has no legal rights to SS and to deny any request for records.
I really wouldn't put this past her to do, and interestingly enough imagr8ma just posted a blog where her SD's BM did the exact same thing.
I do think she is supposed to provide him with this information within 10 days of any doctor's appointment but she doesn't even tell him if or when she is taking SS to the doctor. If we somehow find out that SS is going to the doctor she refuses to tell us which doctor and refuses to allow BF to bring SS to his appointments. Methinks she has something to hide! We may find out that SS isn't as sick or "special needs" as she claims he is. What a suprise that would be...
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I would imagine that the
I would imagine that the doctor's office would give him the info, no problem. However, I suggest that you have a copy of the parenting plan put in the file, just in case there is some question in the future.
We have not done this; however, we've come close. It says in the parenting plan that Dad is to be consulted and have equal say in all major medical, dental, etc. decisions. But of course BM does not do this, and we've found out later about things that she has kept from him (such as OSD going on the pill at 15 at BM's okay so she could have sex with her boyfriend).
If you put a copy of the agreement in the file, then in the future, if you ever have any doubts about anything, it will be easier to call the office and get answers to your questions.
BB
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I would defintely include
I would defintely include the parenting plan up front and make a notation that both parents are able to access medical info.