Oh look! A train wreck! Holloween incident aftermath.
I am a bit confused, not sure of the real motive behind Moosecow's actions. She calls last night, I see the caller ID is displaying Moosecow's #. I toss the phone to DH, he's too slow to answer, I then do the obvious next move & whip out my cell pass it to him like a hot potatoe counting to three. Suprise! The phone rings! DH talks to her. The convo takes a turn for the worse & DH says "You created this monster, you deal with it."
Oh dear, those are fighting words. You just called Wonderchild a monster. Any Mother no matter the species is not going to take that statement & be hung up on. Especially Moosecow, being Wonderchild is so special & perfect in every way.
"DH, why did you say that and hang up?"
"Smirked she said that Wonderchild does not want to come this weekend,then said that I should be doing more for Wonderchild, said I dont make her feel special enough. So I told her thats BS & Wonderchild is not old enough to decide when and if she comes. She went on to say she would not force her to come & she is so upset at the thought of sending her, that I need to come up with something to "win her back" so thats why I said what I said and hung up."
Good grief.
10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.....phone rings, goes to voice mail.
Moosecow's message (well minus the profanities & the snorting).
Who do you think you are....blahblah......how DARE you speak to ME like that....blahblahblah.......I am doing the best I can with what I know.....blahblah....I am doing this on my own....blahblahblah.....SO WHAT if she wanted to trick or treat with me on your weekend blahblah......if you want to pick her up screaming & crying having to rip her out of my arms then YOU can deal with THAT!
What I cant figure out, Moosecow likes EOW "off"she has thrown Wonderchild into our van crying or not.The one time DH said he may not be able to take her (work) she flipped, so he took her.
So either she has a boyfriend who is in the mix and the situation has changed or she simply has some event this weekend that requires Wonderchild. Or she has PAS'd the child so much she has created a situation that the child does not want to come & she cant back peddle her way out of it.
So I now sit and watch this train wreck, wondering what will happen tomorrow morning.
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Please let us know what
Please let us know what happens...it should be very interesting.
~ Please excuse me, I have a low bullsh*t tolerance... ~
Forgive me for not knowing,
Forgive me for not knowing, but how old is SD?
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“The challenge is to help couples turn "I Do" into "We Can."
She is 6 1/2.
She is 6 1/2.
Is your DH going to still
Is your DH going to still pick her up? I think he should.
I think you mentioned this has happened before right? Has DH sat down and talked to SD about why she doesn't want to come to Daddy's house? I think that doing this, in an age appropriate manner, might enlighten him on what is really going on, whether it's PAS, or whatever the case may be.
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“The challenge is to help couples turn "I Do" into "We Can."
Not sure what he plans on
Not sure what he plans on doing yet, I also feel he should pick her up. This has not happened before, the refusal to come. Well the Halloween incident, but that was a special occasion holiday thing.
Bring the CO and the police
Bring the CO and the police with you!
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The same exact thing happend
The same exact thing happend to DH and I regarding SD6 and around the same holiday to boot. He told his XW that SD6 will visit him as scheduled and he will talk to SD6 about whats bothering her. He told his daughter the same thing.
When they talked he found out she was having a hard time accepting the divorce. Nobody else in her class has divorced parents. She also said she was scared I was taking her dad away. I believe the first fear was a legitament issue but latter had soley to do with BM putting thoughts in her head.
Also, I think in alot of cases, SM's are in a " damned if we do or damned if don't" scenario regarding BMs. A lot of them can never be happy. Heck that's why their divorced.
BM and I were in
BM and I were in conversation one day and we got on the topic of how the skids felt when BF and I first moved in together. I was expressing to her how I wanted them to feel like they were 'home' instead of 'guests'. She expressed to me that they absolutely feel at home, she said at first SD was a little worried that my kids and I were going to take up her Daddy's time and she wouldn't have any time with him, but BM said that seeing this wasn't true firsthand she doesn't worry about that any longer. This wasn't because BM told her that I was going to take her Dad's time away.
One of my closest friends is from a divorced family. I know my friends Mother very well. My friend and I were talking about divorce and I asked her what her experience was as she was growing up. She said that she didn't like her SM, that she intentionally tried to sabotage the relationship, and she noticed that SM would feel a little bit of jealousy/resentment since her Dad was always babying her and giving into everything she wanted so she played on that. She didn't want her dad to be with anybody. None of this was due to her Mother's doing. Her Mother never spoke an ill word of the SM.
I know that this isn't always the case, and I myself have at one time been subjected to the BM's antics, but there are times where the BM's didn't have any hands in it at all.
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“The challenge is to help couples turn "I Do" into "We Can."
They were never married, She
They were never married, She just started seeing her Dad about two years ago. That could be part of the issue.
In my case with BM there was
In my case with BM there was an irony about it. SD6 was perfectly fine with us until Halloween. Is that your situation, Smirked? I assummed it was. Sorry for being presumptous.
To say the BM is intentially PAS-ing I'm not sure. Some people are prone to outbursts and say things that are inappropriate in front of children. The BM in my situation was royally angry when she wanted to spend the holiday with her daughter on DH's day. He told her no because we had made plans. She accused him of wanting to spend more time with us then his daughter. Ironically, a few days later his daughter was accusing him of the same thing.
Only you would know if your SD6 is actively trying to mess with you. Luckily, children that age are quite transparent.