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Another school project left entirely up to me.........the evil, wicked, inept, lowly SM.

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Submitted by RustyHalo on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 9:53am

So, SD8 has a project due in two weeks. Some of it has to be done from an encyclopedia, some from text book, some from notes in class, and a little from computer. It's a brochure depicting France. It's BM's weekend, so I suggested to SD8 that she and her mom get started on it this weekend. SD8 says, but mom and BF broke up and he took his computer. I told her that they could do the encyclopedia work and SD8 says they don't have any. I suggested going to the library and SD8 says they have overdue books and BM won't take them there anymore. I said, well, uh..............? Okay, we'll take care of it on our days here.

What do you do when you have a useless BM? I resent the fact that I have to be the one who is responsible. And the fact that BM and her new BF broke up means that BM will be partying a lot again and leaving the kids with other people on her weekends, so there won't be any school work being done anyway. You know, when someone doesn't respect you, is rude to you at every turn, and never acknowledges your role or existence, but then that same person leaves all the "hard" work up to you - it just sucks.

That's all, it's just very sucky. Boo hoo. Yes, I am having a pity party right now. But, I took my happy pill this morning and so I'm sure this will pass soon.

My attention span hasn't been the same since I became......"oh look, a kitty!"

Ha Ha!!

ALL comments/advice always welcome!

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Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 9:58am

Idk Fifth! My skids have two very involved/active parents. Even when things like this fall on DH's weekend, HE is the one helping with the project, definitely not me! I have my hands full with my own children in this area. Does your DH help out?

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Submitted by RustyHalo on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 10:06am

Yes, he's helpful, but with tons of other things. This is just not his forte. He will do laundry, dishes, make dinner, just about everything else, while I help skids with homework. I enjoy this time with the skids. Plus, I'm just "book smarter." FH will do it if I'm not there. I just resent HAVING to do it, because their BM can't or won't even though it's her weekend to have skids and it would be a great opportunity for mother-daughter to get started on what will probably be a fun project.

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

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Submitted by frustrated stepmom on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 10:15am

I have a similiar situation. My youngest skid had a brouchure project as well and he brought the paper home from school and specifically asked ME, the SM, to help him with it because I helped him and my oldest skid with brouchures last year. I even stopped him and asked, don't you think your BM would like to help? To which he responded, "she's always too busy". Well, BM caught wind of the project and calls my house at 9:30pm screaming at my husband that we are "keeping school information about the kids from her" and demanded that we scan and email her the information RIGHT THEN!! I'm sure she heard me over my husbands voice saying, "tell BM that I will send it tomorrow, the project isn't due until ____ and it doesn't need to be sent RIGHT NOW. The skids have to be in bed by 10pm and it's not like skid will start it tonight ANYWAY!". I was about 1 week post-partum when this happened and just a weeeeee bit tired and completely not up for her pulling her normal crap. BM is ALWAYS 100% consumed by SOMETHING, either work or therapy with her husband or just avoiding work.

One really funny thing is that my oldest skid came over yesterday saying that BM started a new medication and it made her "dizzy". Skid then went on to say that the medicine "starts with a 'P' and is a really short word". My husband and I throw out a few "short" medications that start with "P" and when we got to Prozac we suggested it as a joke and skid said, "yeah, that's it!". So, maybe, JUST MAYBE, things will start getting better around here!!! *crosses fingers*

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Submitted by KeeKee on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 10:37am

"My attention span hasn't been the same since I became......"oh look, a kitty!""

I'm sorry but that was just too funny....

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Submitted by LotusFlower on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 11:32am

I have done more projects than I really even care to remember...just like u, there was always some reason why BM couldn't help.....I guess when yur in a drug and alcohol induced fog and yur locked in yur bedroom all weekend with the skell of the week, its kinda hard to help make a shadowbox with yur little girl. I used to get so pissed, but then I had an epiphany...these kids WANTED to do great projects.....so screw her....I helped...and I feel so good today as the oldest is preparing for college that I did help.....I think its kinda like this......look in the mirror and ask yurself....who am I if I don't help and who am I if I DO help.....if u like the person better that helped, then just do it.....yu'll feel great about yurself Smile and as for the BM.......well....when yur SD is at school and says my SM helped me and she is all proud.....that's all that really matters. Trust me, these kids always remember who was there for them..... Smile

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