So glad to find this site. Doesn't seem to be a lot of support for Stepparents out there, and lord knows I need it.

So here goes. Forgive me if its kinda choppy, but Ive been keeping this to myself sooo long

Fiance and I have been on and off for almost the last 7 years. My relationship with his kids has been on and off as well. When we first met he had full custody of them and we really had no issues as SS's were 5 and 7 at the time.

Well, they went to live with there Mother about 3.5 yrs ago. DF and I were not together most of this time and I had no contact with the kids, but I heard all the horrific stories of their behavior while they were with her.

Soooo, earlier this yr the kids (SS11&SS13) started saying they wanted to come back to stay with DF. ( Mom lives in CA, we live in GA.) So in some ways I thought I was prepared for them to come back once the school year ended.

Well DF and I are now expecting our 1st(my only) child. The summer with the skids was challenging to say the least. They have no discipline. SS11 will be 12 in a month-Still pees the bed nightly, still sucks finger, thinks that he is 5yrs old etc. SS13(14 in 2 months) was quite calm when he was here but back to him later.

I have never met or even spoken to there mother. I have been silent in the situation for yrs! Now SS11 lives with us full time. SS13 went back with his mother. Neither SS has any respect for women. Neither have been taught any rules or boudaries and needless to say its getting annoying. they try to hurt each other, are constantly in trouble at school, don't listen to anyone, and the parents have such a guilty conscience that the kids basically get away with murder.

My BD will be born in January and I'm so concerned about her growing up in this life with the skids. I have pretty much disengaged to keep my sanity but I dont want my child to be in a house thats divided. I think the age difference alone will work in my favor, but I'm just wondering is there a light at the end of this tunnel?