I don't know what I am going to do. I thought about putting it all in writing. I do own two of the parcels of land outright that surround my home. I'm about ready to say F*** it. Maybe just wait and see, give it a couple of weeks. If things don't change, in a hurry, I think I will just give my DH (I really do love him, but I hate what this situation is doing to us) an ultimatum. I hate doing that shit, but I guess I have no choice. I could just get my 1/2 (no contest state) and then build a new house on one of those parcels and just start over. The first thing I am going to do is to sit down, figure out the finances and start socking money away that my DH does not know about. I may need it to get by. I hope my mother and sister weren't right about this situation, but in case they are I want to be ready. My Mom and Sister think my DH is in this with the Lazy SD Princesses. I find it hard to believe, but if that is how it turns out, then I have just been used for a lot of years as a maid, cook, housekeeper, bill payer, gardiner, contractor, etc.

My DH has promissed me he will get the Lazy SD Princesses out, maybe not by the 21st, but out soon, but he hasn't given me a date yet when "soon" might be. We will see. You know, I don't get it. He can't stand his daughters any more than I can stand them. They are lazy, flat out tell both of us they are entitled to everything, use us for free babysitting at a moments notice, eat our food, use our electricity, cable, internet service and, not to mention, act and look like their crazy BM (and she is a whacko basket), yet my DH won't put his foot down. My DH said that their sister who is the middle child who lives with her boyfriend (thank goodness, not with me, never with me, I did pack her up and move her out a few years ago, it was awful because she was super hateful and violent-in and out of jail all of the time) said the two SD Princesses are working on getting an apartment and told my DH that the SD Princesses' brother is going to co-sign for them on an apartment. Yeah, well, I know their brother and I find him co-signing for those two a far fetched tale. It would really surprise me. My guess is that the two SD Princesses told their sister this little story so that she would feed it back to her father and then he would feed it to me. I'm fairly certain it is a bullshit story so that the Lazy SD Princesses can manage to stay in my house longer and not have to move. Those two went through this whole thing a few months ago with the same story when I was pushing for them to move out then. They just work their Dad over and he won't do a thing. So, we will see how it goes. I could get really nasty and kick all of them out, but I would really prefer for my DH to be with me and our two kids.

Oh, and by the way, I have thought about leaving many, many times. There are 3 reasons why I stay: my 2 kids and their Dad. They are really close and we are a real good team when the Lazy SD Princesses aren't home to F*** it up for us.

Well, my DH probably does have guilt issues. His ex-wife drank heavily, chain smoked, took tons of prescription meds and mixed those with other drugs, and was a premiscuous scag bag. So, his daughters and son saw this. I worked with him (fellow employee) long before he went through his divorce with her and he was always trying to make up for her "ways". So, there you have it. His daughters now hove their own issues with promiscuity, smoking and drinking.

All I can see is that my DH avoids the subject of the Lazy SD Princesses moving out at every turn. I bring it up and he throws out a new subject to talk about, almost like I never even brought up the subject in the first place, except for the other evening when he flat out told me "We're not going to do that". Well, now tonight, I get to go home (sometime this evening) to a pair of snide, rude, Lazy SD Princesses who will make my life a living hell because their father won't set his foot down with them and now my two children will be watching how their mother has no say in the household. It disgusts me. All because my DH feels guilty about his first wife being a crappy mother to her and his children together, but always forgetting that those children are full grown adults now. What a bunch of shit. Those Lazy SD Princesses know they can work him. I am dreading this evening. Just dreading it. So, I have three choices this evening: Go home, pack up the Lazy SD Princesses crap and discard it out to the street causing a war with them and my DH, go home and pack up my children and leave for my mother's house, or go home and just "take it" and don't do anything. And when I say take it, just deal with the disrespect, snide and rude comments and so on. The man needs to have a backbone here, but he didn't have a backbone with his ex-wife, or with his kids and for some reason he has a backbone though when it comes to me. I don't get it. I'm not a drama queen or anything like that, but I am so pissed off I just want to cry. I know I can't show any emotion at home, and being that I am taking a break at work, I can't show any emotion here, either. This sucks.

Hey Glynne,

Thanks. I appreciate your comments as well as everyone elses. I will gladly accept all the advice I can get.