Ugh too much CS issues going on right now.

#1- Of course BM filed for modification when MSD "aged out" in May 2014. DH just got the proposed new amount and of course it went up AGAIN. Even though CS was just modified last year (per the every 3 year rule). DH's income hasn't changed! How did it go up?

Then to add to that frustration MSD "aging out" really happened in November 2013- when she turned 18. But because she was living with BM and in school, her legal emancipation date wouldnt be until she graudated in May 2014.

BUUUUTTTT She wasn't living with BM or going to school! So basically BM and MSD (yes she knew what she was doing) LIED to DH about MSD going to school. So since she wasn't even in school, MSD should have "aged out" a lot sooner then May 2014.

Of course we find this out #1 by chance (from SS) and AFTER MSD ages out, so CS tells us we cant do anything about it now unless we get a lawyer and take it to court.

We arent going to spend the money for lawyer because the amount we would possibly get back wouldnt cover a lawyer but its just the damn prinicipal. How is BM collecting money for a kid that doesnt even meet the requirements for CS?

How is this bitch always getting a raise in CS? Pisses me off.

I guess DH can (and he is) object to the new amount and it will then go in front of the judge and he can bring the issue up then. We dont know if the judge will even hear it. But its our only hope, even if the likely hood is like 1%.

#2- My Ex, BS's dad is $10,000+ behind on CS. He literally makes ZERO effort to pay it.

He works as a server, so obviously his checks are small. But instead of doing the right thing and sending money in he just ignores it. If I get a payment its like $4. Seriously $4 a week. However, I dont even get a payment every week. I probably average $8 a month in CS.

CS was ordered when my Ex was working a different job, obviously making more money. I have ENCOURAGED him plenty of times to get the order modified. I'm all about being fair and doing the right thing. Since the support was ordered his income has really went DOWN and mine has really went UP. He has showed not interest in getting the support modified. I guess it doesnt matter what you are ordered to pay, when you dont pay or plan on paying anyways.

So July was 3 years since CS was ordered. Ex showed ZERO interest in getting the order modified. I went back and forth on initiating it. I know CS amount is going to be lowered. However if he doesnt care, why should I? What do I owe him? NOTHING. But I thought maybe, just maybe if its lower he will make an attempt.

So I request the modification. I send Ex a text asking if CS has his current address. He tells me Yes. I find out from CS that they do not have his current address. So I make sure to pass that on to them. Then I recieve the paperwork. A week later I ask Ex if he received the paperwork and he says NO. Of course he did. If I did, he did as well.

Of course while I am complying all my paperwork, printing stuff out, getting proof of childcare costs I am sitting here thinking, I am pretty positive that he isn't even going to respond to the request from CS. He is just going to ignore it. I'm going to do all this work and Ex is just going to ignore it. He could give 2 fucks about paying child support.

I never with hold BS from Ex. I would never do it. BS loves his dad. Plus the time when BS is with his dad, is good for me and DH to have some alone time.

But I am thinking- why the fuck am I paying for EVERYTHING, taking BS to every doctor appointment, I sit at every practive (Spring soccer, fall football, winter wrestling) when its early or cold or rainy and go to every single game. I do hw with BS every single night. Spend hours helping with projects. I do EVERYTHING for him.

It's like when BS goes to his dad's- its like he is going to spend the weekend with a grandparent. He goes for the weekend (once every 6 weeks), Ex buys him toys and games and they eat out and they do fun stuff. He does ZERO parenting. Every March Ex's mom takes them both to FL for the week. They get to go and have fun in the sun. Do all the fun stuff.

I want to punish my Ex for his lack of responsibility but I know that would hurt BS and I would never do that.

I will continue to smile and nod when Ex says he is going to pay CS or pay for something for BS. The funny thing is that Ex MIL and SIL will send clothes for BS to Ex's house and Ex will pass them off, that he bought them and paid for them. I know better. It's so fuckin sad.

DH and I go to work. We work hard. We do the right thing. Yet here we are with 2 Exes that will do anything to scam the system or to try to more then what they are owed. It's so frustrating.

Thanks for letting me vent- sorry this is long!