So DH and I decided to bite the bullet and spend the money to go see SS11 (5 hrs away) on the off chance that he would change his mind about seeing us.  DH called BM mutliple times Friday and Saturday and SS refused to speak to him and apparently kept saying he didn't want to see or talk to DH.  While we were on the road, DH told BM that we were already on our way and would be stopping by to see SS no matter what.  He said he would not force SS to come with us, but we were going to at least go by her house to see him and talk to him.  BM tried to say that DH must have done something to SS and DH said that last time they spoke, about a week ago, SS was acting totally normal.

BM was surprised that DH had been able to speak to SS and asked when they had spoken.  DH told her that he had gotten a hold of him at GBM's place.  I guess no one had told her that SS had managed to get to the phone before someone else intercepted the call.  So BM immediately says, "I'm not putting things in his head."  DH responded that he never said that and she said,"Well I don't want you to think that."  What else are we supposed to think? Within a week SS went from being excited about seeing DH to basically telling him he never wanted to speak to him again.  Obviously we didn't have a falling out with SS in those seven days, so where would this sudden change of heart come from?

I guess BM told SS that DH wanted to stop by to say hi because SS sent DH a voice message about 5 mins after hanging up the call.  He said, "Dad, I'm going to BLANK TOWN tomorrow and I don't want to see you or talk to you."  This is a kid whose first words when we call are, "When are you coming?"  The same kid who is already making plans for his summer/winter/spring break visit two months ahead of time. 

So we stopped by his house and no one was there (usually his stepdad takes care of him on the weekends while BM works).  DH continued calling BM and finally went to look for her at work when she wouldn't answer the phone.  She told him SS had gone out with an uncle and she wasn't sure when he would be home but told DH she would call him when SS was back so he could at least try to talk to him.  BM never called.  DH called her at least every two hours, we stopped by her house again and still no one answered.  DH is absolutely heartbroken and I am so beyond pissed I can't even deal. I want to call her and absolutely rip her a new one but I'm sure that will only make things worse so for now I guess I'll just suck it up.