SS melted my heart last night
Last night I decided that I was going to sleep in the other room with BD 4m because I was going to see if she would sleep in her pack and play for the first time and I forgot to get batteries for the monitor. SO and I talked about it and then we called SS5 over. We told him that his sister and I were going to sleep in the other room tonight and so if he wanted to, he could have a daddy/son night and have some boy time. Play games, watch movies, cuddle, and sleep in daddy's bed. He was so excited... but then 5 minutes later he goes "Dad, why can't BD and SM sleep in here too?" "well cause SM thought it would be good for you and I to have some time together alone. We can have a boys night" SS turned to me and says "It's ok, you guys can sleep in here too, we can have some girl time too!" I couldn't help but smile. All evening he was trying to talk me into sleeping in there with BD. It felt amazing that he wanted us to be a part of their night even though he could have had just him and his dad. I was definately surprised. I am usually the first to discipline him and the most strict and he doesn't mind. In the end we still slept in the other room becuase we are staying at SO's parents this weekend and I wanted to be sure BD would sleep in the pack and play. There are many days that SS and I clash but last night was not one of them. Last night made all of the bad days worth it.
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That is so sweet. Don't you
That is so sweet. Don't you just love moments like this?
I can say that I have been the "main" disciplinarian for SS all of his life (since he was 1). He is 9 years old now, and we have a great relationship. There is an unspoken trust and respect there. I have raised him in a way that when he does get "called down" for something, I always tell him WHY. "I don't want you to get hurt... I don't want you to hurt someone else, I want you to be responsible, I want you to be careful". Now he knows that if he doesn't understand something, he can ASK me and that I only correcy him because I love him.
How awsome. It felt so good
How awsome. It felt so good didn't it. I remember when I had that moment with ss17. He was around 8 and Bm said I was a bad mom he got so mad he told her off and ran to his room and slamed the door. He came to our house and told us what happened and asked if she told me that I got dh and they had a talk. Ss was still really mad that he went to his room and plopped in his bed. Dh had to go in there and calm him down. Ss17 came and said you are not a bad mom!
Love those moments when you know they do like you just confused with all the crap their bms say.
Agree with the above
Agree with the above comments...Makes it worth it..
"Do not make the child defend the parent who is not there. You will LOSE."
By talking badly about a parent to a child, the child automatically has some sort of defense in his mind for that parent. Now what you ladies experienced is much more than just that. It is proof of the relationship and bond you have with your SKs. Very happy for you and your families