It sucks always being the "bad guy"
BM requires nothing from the kids, could care less if they pass or fail school, doesn't give a s*it if they're rude to their teachers or get in fights with classmates, she doesn't care if they bathe or brush their teeth regularily, she doesn't care if they swear, she doesn't care how long they're on electronics even if that's all day long, she doens't care what they eat, she doesn't care what time they go to bed...etc, etc, etc!
Then they come to our house and my DH has rules, normal rules, nothing too strict, nothing crazy, but we are the complete opposite of BM so because 50% of the time they're being raised by her in that zoo, they think we are SOOOOOOOO strict and always get labelled as the "bad guys"
It serioulsy really sucks, and I just felt like ranting.
Who else is with me?
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I share the same reality. I
I share the same reality. I finally had to let go to save my sanity.
I just remind myself they are noty kids and I am not responsible for the adults they become.
Yep, we went through that. At
Yep, we went through that. At least until SS started refusing visits at 15.
It's time to switch UP how
It's time to switch UP how you view yourselves as responsible parents.
Society has rules most everywhere you go. Rules about parking your car, rules about speed limits, rules at school, rules at day care. Rules at work. You may see rules posted at the playground. So on and so forth. Are THEY bad guys too?
Our rules were no running in the house, clean up your toys, no fighting, no jumping on furniture. We were told those were too strict LOL
Don't let BM get under your skin. Tell her to grow UP and parent her kids to be good citizens and FOLLOW simple rules.
No more calling yourself the bad guy, OK?
(((HUGS))))
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Thank you! And SO true. I'm
Thank you! And SO true. I'm going to use this next time the kids tell us we're being too strict for having major consequences for telling their teacher to Fuck Off (true story)
We're just getting you ready for grown up life, cause if I told my boss to fuck off, I'd be fired!