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Wow! Once a crazy BM, ALWAYS a crazy BM...My half sister's mom is trying to cause drama 30 yrs later..WTF is wrong with her?

Yosemite's picture

I got a letter for my dad today from child support enforcement telling me that if he has a tax return they will take it for back support. My dad lives with me because he is disabled as a result of a heart attack/stroke combo 26 years ago. He has trouble with activities of daily living and brain damage. He lived with my Gma till she died, then in and out of care homes till 3 years ago when I brought him to live with me. I was 10 when this happened and my half sister was 4. My dad and her mom got divorced when her mom was pregnant.
My dad already gets his SS garnished for back support and has for years so I wondered why they are suddenly sending threatening letters. I did some googling because they are not open today and I was wondering what brought this on. I found an open case at superior court and from the online minute entries, it looks like my sister's mom is trying to get a raise in the amount of money they garnish from SS and for my dad to have to take out a life insurance policy in case he dies before it's paid off. She filed a petition in August but they have delayed a hearing a couple of time because she hasn't served him because she doesn't have his address. You'd think child support enforcement would give it to her, since they had it to send a letter, but whatever.
I am torn on what to do about this because quite frankly, I think my dad should have had to pay for the support that accumulated before his heart attack. However, nobody ever went to court to modify after his heart attack so his back support just kept on accumulating, even though both my mom and my sister's mom collected SS benefits up until each of us turned 18. He gets a very small amount of SS as he never worked much at all, so the amount he pays her is very small too. However, since I take care of him, every dollar of his that gets taken away I wind up having to supplement for him. So it's kinda like I am paying back child support for my sister, LOL. I think I'm gonna have to get him a lawyer, which is not a big deal but just annoying!

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Yosemite's picture

The issue is how old all of this is. I had no idea he was even being garnished until he came to live with me. After my Gma died, one of my aunts handled his affairs. I took over when my uncle got Alzheimer's and she couldn't handle my dad's stuff anymore. Not that he was much of a dad, but no one else wants to take care of him and he is my dad. I like to pretend he would've gottten his head out of his ass eventually were it not for the heart attack/stroke.

Justme54's picture

If he gets SS, he has no tax return. Am I correct? If that is the case, they are going after money that is not there....no need for a lawyer. I can not see them forcing him to buy life insurance...with age and health...who would sell him life insurance. If he could purchase insurance...cost would most likely be big buck. If he dies before the back support is not paid off...that is life.

Yosemite's picture

He doesn't pay any taxes. I agree it's trying to get blood out of a turnip. But I'm worried about what will happen if I don't get a lawyer. He's not competent to represent himself.. and I have POA but I'm not sure that applies in an actual courtroom since I am not a lawyer.
Really, if anyone had modified it after his heart attack he would have owed nothing by now. I think the SS payments made to my mom and my sister's mom should have been credited as paying his support in those months, but it doesn't look like the court ever was told they were getting them. What a mess! I'm sure it'll get worked out eventually but I really don't need the drama.
My sister's mom is very low income so I know she's grasping at straws. But so is my dad and I just don't feel I should wind up supplementing him because no one ever dealt with it years ago.

Justme54's picture

I would not worry about...they can not take what he does not have. She is getting a garnish out of his SS..she should be happy with that. How far behind was he when he got ill? Unless, you think he does not owe the garnish. Lawyers are not cheap. They can not take what he does not have. I am sure they are garnish the max. If the garnish is an error, you dad may have money coming back.

I handle everything A To Z with MIL when she went into the nursing home. She owed on one medical bill and 2 credit cards. I got notes for her to go court. I called and told the Sheriff's Dept. that she is in a nursing home. They asked who I was and my number. I gave it to them. Never heard anything again.

Yosemite's picture

I agree that there's not much she could get. I suppose it's possible she could get a slight increase as the garnishment amount doesn't change, even when he gets a cost of living adjustment in his S.S. I can't imagine that they would make him get a life insurance policy. As you said, I would think the cost would be prohibitive due to his age and medical history. Plus, maybe I just watch too much TV but it seems like that would also kind of give her a motive to bump him off...ya know?
I'm more annoyed than anything. I figure if I have to get a lawyer anyway might as well have him/her dig into the whole mess to see if he should even owe that much, since I suspect he should not.

Yosemite's picture

Yes my half sister is 30 and he is still paying back support. My dad never paid child support prior to his heart attack. So he already had six years of arrearage built up (only four years for my sister). Then when he had his heart attack, he also had a stroke that gave him brain damage. So he is not competent to handle his own affairs and no one ever went back to court to have the child support reduced or eliminated due to his disability, even though both my mom and my sister's mom collected Social Security for us under my dad's record. So every month that child support arrearage got bigger because it wasn't getting paid. At some point child support enforcement starting garnishing his Social Security, but Social Security only allows so much to be garnished and the amount they take every month is only about 1/4 of what his original monthy obligation was. Add in interest and fees and he still owes a lot of money. If anyone had gone back and modified the court order, I think the social security payments for his dependents would have been credited to his child support obligation and he would not have such a large arrearage. I was not involved in his affairs until 3 years ago. I found out then he was getting garnished, but it's a very small amount and it seemed like a big PITA to try to get it all sorted, so I haven't.
However, looks like it will have to get dealt with now since she is taking him to court over. Or at least it will once she gets the address and serves him.

Rags's picture

First, if his SS payments are taxable set his withholding to a level that will have him owing a small amount at the end of the year. No return and BM can't get it.

I understand that your half sister should receive support. And she will. If your half sister is a minor dependent she will get SS payments even after he is deceased. If she is an adult then BM will not collect anything after your father passes.

So, I would not react to this other than to protect what little income your father has so you do not get stuck supplementing his existance more than you have to.

Yosemite's picture

She's an adult. I'm not too worried about it, more annoyed.
Really this is a perfect example of what happens when a BM who isn't married and never worked gets old. She has very low income and is trying to get a little more. My dad was no better, deadbeat, uninvolved and on drugs but granted he might have turned that around had he not had his heart attack.

herewegoagain's picture

Read up on this and see what you can do

http://www.childsupportguidelines.com/articles/art200011.html

If his child support was to be for LESS than the SS the kid received, he really shouldn't owe a dime.

II. Social Security Benefits Received by a Parent

For purposes of child support, Social Security benefits received by a parent constitute income. E.g., In re Marriage of Simon, 856 P.2d 47 (Colo. Ct. App. 1993) (Social Security disability is income); Forbes v. Forbes, 610 N.E.2d 885 (Ind. Ct. App. 1993) (Social Security disability benefits are income); In re Marriage of Lee, 486 N.W.2d 302 (Iowa 1991); In re Marriage of Benson, 495 N.W.2d 777 (Iowa Ct. App. 1992); In re Marriage of Callaghan, 19 Kan. App. 2d 335, 869 P.2d 240 (1994); In re Marriage of Durbin, 251 Mont. 51, 823 P.2d 243 (1991); In re Marriage of Stringham, 124 Or. App. 626, 863 P.2d 504 (1993); Whitaker v. Colbert, 18 Va. App. 202, 442 S.E.2d 429 (1994). Indeed, 42 U.S.C. § 659(a), providing an exception to the anti-alienation provision of 42 U.S.C. § 407 for support, may be read as expressly authorizing state courts to consider Social Security benefits as income for purposes of spousal support and child support.

It would actually be pretty darn funny if she ended up with NOTHING MORE.

Where a child receives such retirement or disability benefits due to a noncustodial parent's retirement or disability, and this noncustodial parent is obligated to pay child support, the social security retirement or disability payments are considered income to the obligor parent. Further, the courts have adopted essentially three approaches to the question of how to treat the receipt of these benefits with regard to the retired or disabled parent's child support obligation:

the court may give a dollar-for-dollar credit for the Social Security benefit received against the child support obligation;
the court may or may not give a dollar-for-dollar credit, depending on the circumstances of the case;
the court may not give a dollar-for-dollar credit against the child support obligation, but must consider the child's receipt of the Social Security benefits as a factor in determining the child's needs.
First, the overwhelming majority of states that have considered the question of how a court should consider a child's receipt of Social Security dependency benefits in the determination of an individual's child support obligations have allowed the child support obligor a dollar-for-dollar credit against the amount of Social Security benefits received by the child. Harbison v. Harbison, 688 So. 2d 876 (Ala. Civ. App. 1997) (Social Security received by child on account of former husband's disability is income to him, and he is entitled to credit); Self v. Self, 685 So. 2d 732 (Ala. Civ. App. 1996) (it is an abuse of discretion to deny father credit for Social Security benefits received by child on account of father's disability); Miller v. Miller, 890 P.2d 574 (Alaska 1995); Cash v. Cash, 234 Ark. 603, 353 S.W.2d 348 (1962); Lopez v. Lopez, 125 Ariz. 309, 609 P.2d 579 (Ct. App. 1980); In re Marriage of Denny, 115 Cal. App. 3d 543, 171 Cal. Rptr. 440 (1981); Williams v. Williams, 560 So. 2d 308 (Fla. Dist. Ct. App. 1990); Perteet v. Sumner, 246 Ga. 182, 269 S.E.2d 453 (1980) (citing Horton v. Horton, 219 Ga. 177, 132 S.E.2d 200 (1963)); In re Marriage of Henry, 156 Ill. 2d 541, 622 N.E.2d 803 (1993); Childerson v. Hess, 198 Ill. App. 3d 395, 555 N.E.2d 1070 (1990); Newman v. Newman, 451 N.W.2d 843 (Iowa 1990) (citing Potts v. Potts, 240 N.W.2d 680 (Iowa 1976)); In re Marriage of Dyer, 21 Fam. L. Rep. (BNA) 1591 (Iowa Ct. App. Sept. 22, 1995); Ellis v. Berry, 19 Kan. App. 2d 105, 867 P.2d 1063 (1993); Andler v. Andler, 217 Kan. 538, 538 P.2d 649 (1975); Miller v. Miller, 929 S.W.2d 202 (Ky. Ct. App. 1996); Folds v. Lebert, 420 So. 2d 715 (La. Ct. App. 1982); Cohen v. Murphy, 368 Mass. 144, 330 N.E.2d 473 (1975); Frens v. Frens, 191 Mich. App. 654, 478 N.W.2d 750 (1991); Mooneyham v. Mooneyham, 420 So. 2d 1072 (Miss. 1982); Weaks v. Weaks, 821 S.W.2d 503 (Mo. 1991) (en banc); McClaskey v. McClaskey, 543 S.W.2d 832 (Mo. Ct. App. 1976); In re Cowan, 279 Mont. 491, 928 P.2d 214 (1996); Hanthorn v. Hanthorn, 236 Neb. 225, 460 N.W.2d 650 (1990); Griffin v. Avery, 120 N.H. 783, 424 A.2d 175 (1980); Romero v. Romero, 101 N.M. 345, 682 P.2d 201 (Ct. App. 1984); Guthmiller v. Guthmiller, 448 N.W.2d 643 (N.D. 1989); McClure v. McClure, 22 Fam. L. Rep. (BNA) 1566 (Ohio Ct. App. 9/27/96); Young v. Young, 105 Ohio App. 3d 701, 664 N.E.2d 1232 (1995); Nazworth v. Nazworth, 931 P.2d 86 (Okla. Ct. App. 1996); Wilson v. Stenwall, 868 P.2d 1317 (Okla. Ct. App. 1992); Preston v. Preston, 435 Pa. Super. 459, 646 A.2d 1186 (1994); Children & Youth Services v. Chorgo, 341 Pa. Super. 512, 491 A.2d 1374 (1985); Pontbriand v. Pontbriand, 622 A.2d 482 (R.I. 1993); Lovett v. Lovett, 311 S.C. 279, 428 S.E.2d 874 (1993); Grunewaldt v. Bisson, 494 N.W.2d 193 (S.D. 1992); Hawkins v. Peterson, 474 N.W.2d 90 (S.D. 1991); Johnson v. Johnson, 948 S.W.2d 835 (Tex. Civ. App. 1997); In re Interest of Allsup, 926 S.W.2d 323 (Tex. Ct. App. 1996); Brooks (Nunley) v. Brooks, 881 P.2d 955 (Utah 1994); Davis v. Davis, 141 Vt. 398, 449 A.2d 947 (1982); Whitaker v. Colbert, 18 Va. App. 202, 442 S.E.2d 429 (1994); Farley v. Farley, 186 W. Va. 263, 412 S.E.2d 261 (1991); Hinckley v. Hinckley, 812 P.2d 907 (Wyo. 1991). The courts have based their decisions on the premise that Social Security benefits paid to children represent substituted income that is otherwise due to the obligor parent. In essence, a payor spouse is entitled to a credit for Social Security disability benefits received by that spouse's children, because the benefits represent a substitute for the payor's income. The benefits are thus substitute support, as support is derived from income.

This approach has also been adopted in the majority of states that addressed the issue in the guidelines themselves. Colo. Rev. Stat. § 14-10-115(16.5) (in cases where the custodial parent receives Social Security benefits on behalf of the children due to the disability or retirement of the noncustodial parent, the noncustodial parent's share of the total child support obligation shall be reduced in an amount equal to the amount of such benefits); Conn. C.S. and Arrearage G. (noncustodial parent receives credit for any Social Security benefits payable under such parent's account on behalf of the subject child); Idaho R. Civ. Pro. 6(c)(6)(sec. 11) (when disability or retirement benefits are received by child, the amount of compensation paid for the children shall be treated for all purposes as if the disabled or retired person paid the compensation toward the satisfaction of the support obligation and any arrearage); Mich. C.S.G., II(D) (when children receive dependent benefits based on the earnings record of the noncustodial parent, those benefits shall not be considered income to the custodial parent, but shall be considered payment toward the noncustodial parent's obligation of support); Utah Code Ann. § 78-45-7.7 (Social Security benefits received by a child due to the earnings of a parent may be credited as child support to the parent upon whose earnings record it is based).

While the discussion thus far has focused on disability and retirement benefits, the courts have applied the same rationale to survivor benefits as well. E.g., Bowden v. Bowden, 426 So. 2d 448 (Ala. Civ. App. 1983) (applying North Carolina law); In re Marriage of Meek, 669 P.2d 628 (Colo. Ct. App. 1983) (Social Security benefits paid to children on account of payor spouse's death satisfied decedent's support obligation, since such benefits represented money earned and contributed through efforts of working parent that substituted as income to worker's family on worker's death and as such constituted payments in the nature of support); Board v. Board, 690 S.W.2d 380 (Ky. 1985); Brewer v. Brewer, 244 Neb. 731, 509 N.W.2d 10 (1993); Gilford v. Wurster, 24 Ohio App. 3d 77, 493 N.E.2d 258 (1983); Pessein v. Pessein, 68 Wash. App. 893, 846 P.2d 1385 (1993). But see In re Marriage of Bertrand, 33 Cal. App. 4th 437, 39 Cal. Rptr. 2d 151 (1995) (survivor benefits received by child on account of parent's death cannot be used to satisfy parent's support obligation, rejecting argument that death is the ultimate disability). See generally Annotation, Right to Credit on Child Support Payments for Social Security or Other Government Dependency Payments Made for Benefit of Child, 34 A.L.R. 5th 447 (1995) (stating majority rule, listing cases).

Second, some states have held that a child's receipt of Social Security benefits does not per se require a dollar-for-dollar credit against an obligor's support obligation. Rather, these courts have stated that the proper procedure is for the court to carefully consider the effect of the receipt of benefits on the needs of the children at issue. If appropriate, the court must then make written findings of fact that the obligor's current obligation is unjust or inappropriate, and then offset the benefits received. Stultz v. Stultz, 659 N.E.2d 125 (Ind. 1995); DeLaOssa v. DeLaOssa, 291 N.J. Super. 557, 677 A.2d 1157 (App. Div. 1996); Graby v. Graby, 87 N.Y.2d 605, 641 N.Y.S.2d 577 (1996); Nibs v. Nibs, 625 P.2d 1256 (Okla. 1981); In re Marriage of Lawhorn, 119 Or. 225, 850 P.2d 1126 (1993); In re Marriage of Krompel, 129 Or. App. 394, 879 P.2d 223 (1994); Miller v. Bistransky, 451 Pa. Super. 433, 679 A.2d 1300 (1996); Chase v. Chase, 74 Wash. 2d 253, 444 P.2d 145 (1968). One state has adopted this approach in the guidelines. N.C. C.S.G.; see also Or. Admin. Reg. 137-050-0405.

Third, some courts have stated that a child's receipt of Social Security benefits is but a factor in considering the needs of the child. Ouellette v. Ouellette, 687 A.2d 242 (Me. 1996) (not entitled to offset; is deviation factor); In re Marriage of Haynes, 343 N.W.2d 679 (Minn. Ct. App. 1984). This same court has declared, however, that these payments to the children must be considered in measuring children's need for support. Green v. Green, 402 N.W.2d 248 (Minn. Ct. App. 1987). See also Kight v. Kight, 242 Ga. 563, 250 S.E.2d 451 (1978) (while the court disallowed a dollar-for-dollar credit, the court did state that the trial court must consider the wife's receipt of these funds as additional income available to the children in husband's modification action).

In sum, counsel must remember that Social Security benefits received by a child may be credited to the obligor's child support obligation if the benefits are received on the obligor's account, but in some states, the credit is not automatic.

PS - I AM NOT A LAWYER so do not take this at face value...but read up on it and contact a lawyer

Get him a good lawyer or check to see if you can find one free for him...it would be hilarious if the witch owed HIM and the courts did something. The fact is that if she is 30 and her mother was receiving that SS money, she should have notified the courts as well...I bet she never did. I know I would get more from SS than I would in CS if something happened to my son's dad...it might have been the same for her.

Yosemite's picture

Thank you for the info! I was thinking he should have gotten some sort of credit for the SS payments made to his dependents and this seems to corraborate that.
It would be ironic if she would up with nothing, but it also would be kind of sad. Then my sister will probably wind up supplementing HER. Sheesh.....