My dh and I sat down with sd (12) and talked about her math grade she is failing and emails from the teacher indicate that she is not trying her best. She is currently living with bm and at our home every Wednesday and EOW. My other sd (10) is coming to our home for visits very tired with bags underneath her eyes nearly every visit. Bm is very controlling and favors ss (7) which does not come to our home and has not been taking scheduled one on one visits with dh. Currently BM and her husband live in a small 3 bedroom home.

Took my bd to the doctor this morning and she has pertussis (whooping cough) this is dh day to have sd's and then we have them for EOW visit this weekend. I personally don't think this is a good idea to have sd's come to our home when bd has this very contagious illness. I don't think he is planning on telling bm that my daughter has this but he is planning on telling sd's. I think this will majorly back fire in his face if bm gets wind of this.

I have a question. If bm does not want the sk's around the evil stepmom on dh visitation. Where in the hell is dh supposed to take visitation with their kids? I have seen it posted many times and bm complains that dh doesn't spend enough time with the kids and how being around sm is bad. Where are they supposed to spend time with them then? At bm's so she can have her "family" back or so that she can monitor them.

I am so frustrated I could cry today. DH and I had a long talk yesterday about ss and his lack of respect for dh and how dh just seems to accept it. SS is 7 and is the most selfish child I have ever seen. And bm's blames dh for ss, when she just like dh feeds into the crapiness of ss attitude and babies him. I am so thankful that I do not have to deal with ss, as he does not come to our home.