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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Sun, 08/22/2010 - 8:34pm

I have the same problem with my DH every year on the first and last day of the kids' school year. Apparently he, his exw and the kids usually go out for ice cream every year on these days and talk about how the kids days went. I hate it. I hate that he plays happy little family with her and the kids. I try hard not to get worked up about it but I can't seem to help it. So here we are again, he's going down there after school tomorrow and I ask him if they are going to eat too and he says he hasn't planned that far or thought about it. I say BS. He just doesn't want to listen to me gripe about it ahead of time so he will pretend it was some last minute plan once again. I know I should be the bigger person here and let it go but I just can't seem to make that happen. Sad

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Submitted by WifeVersion2.0 on Sun, 08/22/2010 - 8:42pm

That's part of the problem is that I can never attend because I have my own kiddos (in another school district) that I need to pick up from school. And I do something special with them usually but their dad doesn't attend so I feel like I'm a single mom once again and very excluded. I know that sounds so very selfish when I say it out loud since it should be about the kids and not about me but I just can't seem to get past this thing.

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Submitted by Ridiculous989 on Sun, 08/22/2010 - 9:11pm

Sounds like a tough one. What if you host something? Be the bigger person or pull the better con. Tell him you'd like to have something where you're all together. Meet in between both districts. Say you want all the kids to feel special on their first day and you would really appreciate it if he would try his best to make this happen because it means a lot to you. And as a bonus invite the broad.You have to make things work in your favor and I've learned that sometimes it means thinking outside the box because making a straight forward request hasn't worked for me lately.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 08/22/2010 - 9:24pm

Go with him. Then you don't have to worry about it because you will be involved. That way, instead of you and your DH being uncomfortable you will be there for each other and the kids. If BM is uncomfortable about it, that is her issue.

Have fun.

Best regards,

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Submitted by wriggsy on Thu, 08/26/2010 - 11:13am

I know it's already passed, but I would suggest (for the future) asking DH if they would wait on you and your kids...then you can all get ice cream (or whatever) together. If BM isn't a horrible person, I am all for everyone doing something like this together. Think of how nice that would be for the kids to see...it may be a little awkward, but it's for the kids...right? Don't get me wrong...if the skids or BM are butt's...I wouldn't suggest it. However, if the BM is decent and the kids all get along...what can it hurt...a couple hours twice a year?

Personally, if my daughter's SM and dad lived closer (they are 5 hours away), I would call them...actually I would call SM (dad could stay home) and invite her! She's just that great! (and I know my daughter would get a HUGE thrill out of it!)