I don't even know where to begin. DH's BD(7) is just plain out of control. It's just crazy watching this child go.

DH's Grandfather passed away the weekend before last so we drove over to his parents house and spent four days over there just being with family. DH's mother as usually was spoiling all of the kids, including my BD(7), like she always does. (Not a bad thing. She hadn't seen any of the kids in over six months.) She took them to toys r us and dropped a bunch of money on them for toys, threw a B-day party for SS(5) because she missed it at the start of the year, made them treats, fed them all different kinds of sugar, took SD in for a hair cut and got her highlights (very natural looking), and just all around spoiled the crap out of them.

Do you think that SD would treat her with any respect? Nope. She was horrible to her and everyone else in the house. Full of attitude, talking back, arguing. You name it. She was doing it. At one point in time she was so disrespectful in front of both DH and I to her Grandmother that DH grabbed her and spanked her little but.

There was a moment where she was prancing around the kitchen with her shirt rolled up so that you could see her stomach with a hair tie on her back to hold everything in place shaking her butt back and forth and asking DH's mother and I if she looked sexy. DH's mother was not at all impressed with this so took the hair tie from her and told her to stop. That little girl looked me right in the eye and said, "I don't care if you take that. I'll just go and get another one."

It was just crazy. DH's Grandmother thinks that she's going to end up pregnant or in jail by the time she's 15. DH's mother and father are completely disappointed in her for the way she treats them, and DH's brother doesn't really care for her and wonders why she can't just be a normal child like SS and BD.

Now before anybody starts to jump me about how this isn't her fault and how horrible it is for her bio family to feel this way and that it's just bad parenting I will stop you here and agree with you.

Before I came along DH didn't have rules. Boundaries? What the heck are those. He would let his BD scream at him, call him names, disobey him, nag and nag and nag until he just gave in to get her to shut up after he had said no about something. He has since worked on these things and has gotten a lot better about understanding that there are two sides to parenting. There's the fun parent side and then there's the parent parent side.

His ex on the other hand is who I think will be the demise of this child. She allows her to watch inappropriate music videos and inappropriate music in general. SD will show up at the house dancing like she's at a night club. It's pretty discusting, but I'm sure that the ex just thinks it's addorable. She has told SD that she is going to take her to get her nose and belly button pierced which when SD repeated that to DH her about lost it. She's now got SD worried about being fat because she's fat. SD is far from over wieght but thinks that she has a belly that she has to get rid of and runs around the house all of the time trying to get rid of something that's not even there. She makes comments about how she can't eat or drink certain things because of calories. This kid is very about how she is dressed, her hair, how she looks to the point where when DH pricks close out for her because it's taking her to long to get dressed she will freak out, have a full blown tantrum, and scream at him. Her mother is going to give her a freaking eating disorder.

It's going to be a nightmare for all involved when this kid gets older. She has been trying to threaten me into getting her way over the last couple of months. It doesn't work but boy does it piss me off.

THIS KID IS OUT OF CONTROL!!!!!!!