So I had an interesting weekend......I finally completely disengaged from my SD16. How did I manage that you ask.....? By shipping her off to her BMs! Good effin riddance! To make a long story short here is my last blog: http://steptalk.org/node/70143. Yes, my SO is STILL out of town.

Well, SD16 wanted to be off groundment after 10 days. According to her she knows what she did was bad and she knows that we can't trust her and what could she do to make things better. First of all, you will stay grounded until we say so. SD16 insisted that she had learned her lesson. SD16 you will stay grounded for a good long month and don't expect your social life to be given back to you just like that after coming off being grounded. Baby steps. I told SD16 that she could come out of her room and if she was going to watch tv it had to be an educational show and she had to write about it. Nope, she didn't want to do that. Doesn't care much for tv. Okay, then stay in your room. She wanted me to tell her right then and there for how long she was going to be grounded. Told her at least for a good long month. Whatever.

So, while I am at work SD16 has been playing Betty Crocker. Sorry, but if you are grounded you shouldn't have the freedom to go into the kitchen and fix yourself up a nice breakfast, lunch or dinner. You stick to cereal in the mornings, for lunch you eat the leftovers and for dinner you eat what you are fed. I comem home on Friday and once again I noticed she had been in the kitchen playing Betty Crocker. I called her out on it and I also let her know that her dad said that she was going to stay grounded for a full month. She decided to talk back to me with a tone. I called her dad and put him on speaker phone and he told her that she better keep her mouth shut and she was going to stay grounded and she was done with sleepovers. Then SD16 said how else was she supposed to hang out with her friends if she can't have sleepovers anymore and that she was going to need a curfew...I told her that we were not going to talk about curfews. (During the school year SD16 didn't have much of a social life. Her grades were shitty. Shitty grades do not get you a social life.)

SD16 comes out of her room and she tells me since she can't be trusted by us anymore might as well go to her BMs. Okay! I called SO and told him this and he said "Send her!" He called BM and she didn't take his call. I called BM and she hung up on me. I finally told SD16 to call her BM that she hasn't spoken to in over 5 years. BM took her call. Of course BM was ecstatic! She had just bought SD16 clothes at Abercrombie. That both SD16 and SS14 should have been living with her all this time. They were taken from her. That she has the divorce decree. They were on speaker phone by the way. I butted in and I told BM that SO was NOT going to be sending her any money. BM then told me that the house and the business are hers. They were divorced over 10 years ago.....BM had to rub it in "The house that your living in" She told SD16 how she was sorry that she was being put in the middle of everything and that her dad was a coward for not calling her. You hung up on him bitch!

SD16 hangs up with BM as I was on the phone with SO, BM had called and left a message. On her message she is telling the skids how SO never let her speak to them. That she would call all the time and that there is going to be a court battle, blah, blah, blah.....BM called back and I spoke to her. I told her that SD16 needed to be with her. SD16 couldn't handle our rules which were simple. No Ds or Fs. That SD16 wanted freedoms that SO didn't agree with. I was telling BM that SD16 needed a mother-daughter relationship to only have BM hang up on me! I called back and BM said I was bad mouthing SD16! How is that bad mouthing her!?! I'm just telling you what SD16 wants and that SO doesn't agree to it!

BM then tells me that my SO has committed a federal crime but she can't say what. I told her that all I had to do was call his lawyer and get info from her. Nope! The lawyer is in on it too! BM believes that my SO paid off the judge so he could get custody of skids. Whatever! I then questioned her about were she gets that my SO abuses me. According to her someone told her and she can't tell me. That I need to leave for my own good. To quit protecting my SO. That he doesn't want to marry me because he has something else in mind or some bullshit like that she was telling me. She told me that she appreciates me for taking care of her kids......wow.......and then she tells me to leave for my own good. She called herself a good Christian. Read my blogs and you tell me if she is a good Christian. Whackjob!

SO told SD16 that she can come back when she wants. No! She ran away from her punishment here. She NEEDS to stay with her BM. I can't give her a mother-daughter type of relationship that she wants. My SO goes out of town a few times out of the year and that is when SD16 takes it to a whole new level with being disrespectful to me. I do NOT want to deal with her anymore, especially when SO is out of town. Eventhough BM is a nutjob I want for SD16 to stay there. She can finish her high school career there and her BM can deal with all her needs and wants. SD16 has caused me to become very resentful and angry. Just the thought of her annoys me.

And before SD16 left she snuck into our room and took back one of her flatirons that I took away from her when she had snuck out of the house. I called my SO and I told him that if I didn't get that flatiron back I was going to leave him! Yes, that is how pissed off I was! I couldn't believe SD16 did that before she left. And she was all about "Dad said I can come back I just want to see what its like at my moms" I really don't think SD16 is going to come back because her BM is NOT going to allow it. I hope she doesn't come back......I love that girl but she annoys me!