Just a Stupid Vent
So...it's our weekend, and it's a holiday weekend...
Yesterday, DH says the kids will probably come over around noon since they don't have school. WHHYYYYYYYY?!?!?!
We both work from home, and it's still a work day for us. We have a lunch meeting at 12:30. Also...my office doubles as SDs bedroom when they're here.
DH says we can just tell SD she can't settle into the room until the work day us over. Ok, fine. But that still means they're here, turning on the TV, throwing their stuff everywhere, rummaging in the kitchen. Usually they come over at 5 on Friday...and I quit work around 4:30 so I can straighten up a bit, make sure all my office stuff is put away where it can't get messed up. Now I have to do that prep during the work day...which us already shortened by skids' arrival.
I don't understand the point of them coming early. We won't even be here for half of it...we'll be out at lunch...so it's not like we're spending extra quality time with them.
Does anyone else gave a DH who does this? Goes for "extra time" that really isn't extra time and is just a big inconvenience for everyone except him?
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It is most likely convienent
It is most likely convienent for the BM. If you are working then there is no reason for them to be there.
He isn't spending time with them, so why are they there?
Hmmm. That's an interesting
Hmmm. That's an interesting idea. If they were younger (and stuff like this did happen when they were younger) I'd say you're probably right. But they're 17 and 15. They drive themselves over. And BM is a school teacher so she's off today as well. No reason for them to be here and not there.
You're a brave soul to keep
You're a brave soul to keep your important work papers and information near the skid.
I would just tell them that
I would just tell them that they cannot be there until their dad is home as you work until xx time. After all, visitation is for visiting the other parent. If he's not there, then there is no point. I think snowflake is right - it's just BM getting them out of HER hair. Tough luck.
Yes my dh does it for every
Yes my dh does it for every school holiday, break,and summers. We have ss for all the times he is out of school, even though that's not the CO. And I'm a teacher so im home those days and summers. And dh works construction so he just works anyway. Ss is 12 so doesn't need a sitter, but is just at our house without dh spending the extra time with him. And I'm stuck listening to ss and seeing his messes all fay. But I can't really complain a out watching him because he's 1w....so technically they aren't using me as a sitter. If I weren't there, he'd be there alone and they wouldn't care.