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tuffcookie's picture

10 years of marriage . I'm now divorced and I have to say I feel so much better. I can say I will never remarry again. I love being single nor do I have to put up with disrespectful adult kids again. Or there father who always overlooked all the things they said to me. I came home from a laughlin run and when I got home he threw papers at me saying he wanted a divorce I said ok. It's been 2 years since the divorce now he wants me back to get remarried  . I will never be in that type of relationship again or any relationship again.  He lost a good person and that was me and he won't admit it but I was a great wife. Now he is the one who is suffering but he has not changed nor has his adult brats

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Rags's picture

You learned from that experience. He has learned nothing.

Keep living well and living your revenge.

I fail to comprehend why toxic people think that decent people would have any interest in re-engaging after ending a relationship with toxic.

My XW decided that we should date after our divorce.  I responded by telling her that I had been married to her and then asking her what on earth made her think that I would date her?  She turned out to be a romance addict.  She dated the whole time we were dating, were engaged, and were married.  I was too naive to see it.  But for damned sure once I gained clarity I had zero desire to be in any type of relationship with her.  Dating me was some kind of romantic fix that she wanted to get.  I left that crap hanging.

Good riddance to the departed toxic Xs.

Why are you in contact with him at all?  

tuffcookie's picture

Rags,

In the divorce i got out of it a single wide mobil home, some call it a chit shack. its a home to me better than sleeping in my car. or on the street. i didnt get allonmoney . he was a very smart man. i just wanted the divorce. well when i moved next door because its next to his home. i started getting dog chit tossed on my truck 3 flat tires and the same with my grandaughter. he would make smart mouth comments. but their was nothing i could do because you have to have proof. but i know it was him. one day i said cant we just be friends because we live next door to each other. he said ok.. well me being the nice person that i am i kept over looking his very vulger comments. he talks and treats me worse then before. my truck was broken i had know way to fix it and know one else to turn to it costs 1800.00 to fix it and he paid for it. he told me he owed me that. and he did and more but im good with that. when i got divorced the laywers had me sign up for social security its not much. all the money i had went on a lawyer it took all i had. ive been trying to find work but im in a small towm and with this cov19 going on makes it even harder. he wants to get back together and get married. NO way would i ever make that mistake . men have been asking me out but i cant and wont i have come to the point i dont trust men anymore sorry its so long

Stepdrama2020's picture

I was also married ten years to a guilty dad who lusted over his mini wife. He actually left me to go back to BM. Yea I know this sounds trashy. Anyway he texted a while back to move back, I BLOCKED him.

So I share your triumph. Never look back, always move forward to better. His loss, and may he feel it til the end of time.

tuffcookie's picture

Stepdrama,

i always ask God to see me through . I had so much peace after we ended it. now even trying to be just friends isnt working he talks to me like im a hooker that he just picked up off the street. im not like that. he thinks he is all that just because he has money. I dont miss being with him and i have know regretts.

tuffcookie's picture

yes they are maybe i was a fool in saying we could be friends only because i needed him to stop. but he will never change

TheAccidentalSM's picture

Your ex and his adult kids were a nightmare.  Enjoy your peace and freedom.

Alexey's picture

Laughlin run is fun! Good for you girl, don't go back!