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tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

I gave myself a nice Valentines gift yesterday.....I went to an attorney's office to start the paperwork for my case.

I have both my kids and my ex seems to think paying 1/2 for lunch money for school is what I deserve.

He finally made me go the attorney after he called late one night last week asking for my BS16 ssn number for taxes. My time of being his secretary I thought was over when we got divorced. Before I gave it to him....I told him that we needed to discuss next years taxes. He immediately gets unclued (he usually does about money) He went on and on about how we agreed that I would have 1 child and he would have the other for taxes. I told him...I have them full time and that wasn't originally agreed upon. He then went on to say that kids made that decision....Hello??

The man has 1 vehicle for him and the child bride (25 years age difference) and I got married and moved about 20 min away. I shuttled my daughter to her old school for 6 months and he claims the kids decided. I think it was that wasn't convienent since I moved and it was easier for him.

The man works part time and of course relys on his current wife to pay the bills.

He is going to have a fit once he gets served. I spoke to my kids already and they know that he is irresponsible and don't want to live with him again like it was......he is a good weekend Dad. Spending the money on movies, resturants and other fun stuff and complains about 1 check for $60 he gives me once a month......yeah please...

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stepmom2one's picture

I am with many other SMs out there that are getting screwed as far as child support is concerned. Paying more than half of what the child needs, BUT $60 a month just isn't going to cut it. I am glad that you are taking care of this. PLEASE ask for a reasonable amount though. If 25% or whatever in your state determines is too much money I would hope you'd settle for what is fair.

Good Luck, though I doubt you'll need it Wink

tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

The $60 is for school lunch every month and usually there is an excuse of why he doesn't have it.....

I don't know really how much he makes.....my original child support amount was $459. I don't have a problem with any amount just as he now knows he is supporting them other than 8 days a month!

He owes thousands in back support for an adult child in another state....he has an issue paying money....its principle.

tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

No $60 from the ex. He did buy 3 new cell phones. My BD10 mentioned that her Dad was talking about going to Niagra Falls soon and also for Spring Break they are going to Disney.

Won't he be surprised that the big tax refund they got back....is really going to an attorney.

stepmom2one's picture

he is going to have to pay support. $60 a week and he can't come up with it :jawdrop: Gosh this guy is making me mad!!

After all we do for our SD and we are completely unappreicated. SD9 doesn't even believe that we pay CS, she says we never help her BM. I think her BM tells her that she doesn't get anything as part of the PAS.

Whats worse is I am sure you BD is wondering why you can't take her to those places. She will know the truth when she gets older.

tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

They understand that it is not fair for their Dad to just expect me to pay for everything, complain he doesn't have any money but then spend money on them EOW.

I am not looking for anything above fair. I don't even know what he truly makes. Since he remarried 2 years ago he finally started filing his taxes.

What makes me ill is that my daughter is telling me about the trips they are all planning....well hopefully the trips are going to be cancelled for a trip to an attorney.

My kids want to stay with me and since he can't pay on time for any of the agreed 50/50 that is why he is going to end up paying for CS. He owes tens of thousands of back support in another state...hopefully he doesn't want to face a judge on that one.

tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

I got my copies of the court information on my case.....to my surprise no word for the biodad.

I told the kids that if he would happened to mention it to let him know to contact me if he needs to discuss it.

Biodad owes big money in another state for back cs and the kids already live with me so I am hoping just for out of court settlement so this is over. Court is next month......normally it takes 2 or 3 months.