BM is not in the picture. She is basically the worst mother I've ever met. She does NOTHING for her kids at all. I want to write her an email and just let her know what a fucked up person she is and what she's doing to her kids. Have any of you stepmoms that live with the stepkids full time ever wrote to the BM ? Should I bother telling her what should be obvious to her. I know I wont get anywhere but she needs to know some things.