sick all weekend
Usually I wouldnt say much when my SD6 is sick on the weekends she comes over but this situation is extremely annoying. Friday she is crying and crying for her BM. So I am trying to calm her down she is hysterical cause her BM said she couldnt stay home that weekend even though she had been running a fever since thursday morning because she had a superbowl party and she was going to get everyone sick. OMG what a wonderful mother. So saturday after an hour of crying, we made the BM a valentines day card because that is what she wanted to do.
I love it crappy mom gets more respect and love than i do woohoo.
I know, i know shes six and its her mom. Like i dont know that.
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I have felt the same way
I have felt the same way this weekend. Out of nowhere, SS3 hasn't been listening to me. It just started this past week. He usually listens as well as a typical 3 y/o does. Whenever he gets pissed off he crys for mommy which really hurts DBf's feelings. He's been doing that a lot lately and I think its because when he freaks out and screams and crys she gives him what he wants. That is what she does anyway. He hsa been an absolute nightmare. He dosen't listen anymore to either of us. He used to ask me for help, milk, toys, etc. Now its ALL "daddy this" and "daddy that." Instead of asking for what he wants, he immideately starts freaking out and crying. He has been having a meltdown over EVERYTHING this week. He's had a cough but hasn't been sick other than that. So DBf has a really big test this week that he has to study for and Sunday is our switch day. He called BM and she told him "well I have plans for a superbowl party." 1st of all, she dosent even like football and secondly she ALWAYS calls or texts saying how much she misses him. If you really missed him, you would make him a prioroty. He wasn't even aksing her to pick him up that early, only like 2 hours before reg time. I think she's been telling him stuff like, you don't have to listen to her. Its such crap. I'm sick of these stupid BM's always getting their way but since they are "the poor single mom" they get everything. I get no credit for helping raise him even though he lives in OUR home too.
Stepchill when my sd was 4
Stepchill
when my sd was 4 she used to throw crazy fits for hours just screaming and saying stupid stuff like we broke her heart and took away her happy. How she just wanted to be at her moms. What we did was make her go in her room until she wanted to talk because we were not listening to histerical crying about how her life sucked so bad eventually it stopped and now she just freaks out when shes sick.
Thank you for your advice.
Thank you for your advice. We actually did baby-gate him in his room when he was acting like that. I think he spent more of the week in time out than he didn't! He just walked around screaming out of nowhere. It would be stupid stuff like the cat was looking at him or that we gave him too many cheerios and not enough kix... It was absolutely out of control. I love him, but I'm glad we don't have to see him for 7 whole, wonderful days!
kids will do what they are
kids will do what they are allowed to do. it hurts to not get a card from the skid right? but think about it...YOU sat down with her to make one for her mom. you helped. not a good shot of her doing it by herself for you. so ask yourself...why can't my husband sit down with this child and help her make a card for me? it is just men's inherent laziness...you have to tell him.
my BF always takes SD shopping for me for xmas and birthdays etc...and THEY do craft stuff for me...tell me to leave for an hour or so whatever. But HE initiates it and through that is teaching SD that is the proper thing to do.
So why is your hubby not teaching it? Maybe you should talk to him.
Trahzum - I don't know if
Trahzum - I don't know if this will be any comfort to you... but you did the right thing.
It's normal for a kid to want their mom when they are sick. And you know what you did? You took on the mom role. You comforted her and distracted her and do what all good moms do to help their child feel better.
I know it may seem like you don't get the same respect, but as your SD gets older, she'll understand and realize.
Keep doing what you are doing. And laugh at stupid selfish "BM of the year". It may hurt and suck a lot.... but your SD will eventually grow to notice the difference. At least I think and hope so.
And I completely agree with Folkmom. It will be up to DH to make sure your SD does the right thing by you. I'm not sure how in tune and sensitive your DH is, so he may need some guidance from you so that you don't get disappointed and bitter. And don't play into the whole "He should know what I want and need" game. Sometimes men need to be told.
You did good! Enjoy that feeling.
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