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trace38's picture

Hi everyone! 2 quick questions I'd just like to get some opinions on Smile

1. I live in a VERY small 3 bedroom house and BD has one room (which she shares with SD18 every other weekend) and DH and I have one room. Is it reasonable for SS11 to have an entire room for just himself every other weekend considering that I work from home and have nowhere in our tiny living room to work. I am literally confined to a side table beside the couch which is piled with disorganized paperwork. I have to twist funny to just use my computer which is mostly what I do for about 50+ hours a week. I would like to make SS11's room a "guest room/office" that I can use while he is not here. Is that awful of me?

2. SD18 still comes every other weekend and shares a tiny room with BD12. It's a very small room. BD uses a futon and when SD is here we blow up a twin size air mattress and it literally takes the rest of the room. There is NO walking space, lol! I hate this tiny house, but that's beside the point. The situation is that BD just got a new bed, it is a full size with a metal scrolling headboard and footboard. It's very her and she loves it! She has been through some very difficult times recently and getting something special like this has made her happier than I've seen her in months. Problem is there is no room now for SD18's air mattress. DH was fine with it until we put it together and realized we wouldn't be able to fit the air mattress in there anymore, now he's pretty angry about it (btw, I blame him for choosing this incredibly small house, I actually begged him not to take it but he did anyway behind my back... it's a huge point of contention for us...). So is it awful to put SD18 on the couch or make her share the room SS11 uses? She is going to college at the end of the summer anyway...

Thanks in advance for you opinions!

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kellyyy's picture

I know alot of people won't agree with me, but I think with EOW, it is stupid to dedicate a room to child that is rarely there. My SDs use thier room 4 days a month. The other 27 days the door is shut and the room is completly unused. Its a complete waste of space and a complete mess. Dirty clothes and matresses start smelling. Candy starts molding. The fish tank is neglected and so it smells horrible. DH would never agree to changing it tho.

trace38's picture

SS's room is the smallest in the house. We can fit the futon in there and a desk an that would be about it. But I think that would be reasonable cause I really need a place to work. There really isn't space for anyone's things, much less SS's. I don't even have room in our room for my things so I have to use the bathroom linen closet for my clothes. This house is ridiculously small. That's why I feel like SS really doesn't need a room... I mean, I don't even have room for my things and he has a whole freakin room to himself and he doesn't even live here.

purpledaisies's picture

My skids don't have a room at our house. I have a girl cave and dh has a man cave. My DS has a room. They man cave is where skids sleep. There is a nice futon in there and they love it. When ss17 comes he sleeps in the girl cave. No big deal. And I don't think that a room should be for a kid that comes so rarely. That is just crazy. Take that room and set it up as your office with a futon of some sort and as long as he place to sleep it shouldn't be a big deal.