Christmas Card Confusion

Sending out Christmas cards just seems like more of a hassle than something enjoyable now a days. I often get confused on what to do. For example, DH's brother has a gf that got "accidently pregnant". They have gone back and fourth always fighting and have been on the brink of calling it quits more times than I can count. Do I write her name in the x-mas card? How do i know that they arent going to be split up by the time the cards make it to their house? One of my friends has a kid with her husband and he also has a kid from his ex gf. She doesn't really care for skid. Whenever she talks about her family she only refers to bio, never ss. So, do I write ss's name in x-mas card, or is that going to piss off my friend if i do? Or if i don't will her DH get pissed and then she'll get pissed anyways? I also have another friend who has a kid with her bf and he has a kid from his ex gf. The skid doesn't live with them, but this friend loves her skid. Soooo do i put skids name in card? I also received a car last year from DH's family member that put Dh's daughter's name in the card. But, skid doesn't live here, never has? Ugh, what happened to the good old days when the family situation was cut and dry and you didn't have to sit there and rip your hair out trying to predict who's name to include or not include. I hate it!

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This is how I do cards and

This is how I do cards and most cards I have received are the same way... so not sure if it's right or not, but it seems to be what others are doing as well...

I address my Christmas cards to people I personally know.. so if my GF has a BF who has a son, but I have never met son because he does not live with them, I am only addressing the card to GF and her BF.

I have gotten cards from different friends and family who don't know my skids... they know they exist, but they've never met them. They have all sent cards addressed to me, DH and our bio son only. DH has never complained and like I said more than one person has done this, so I think it is the norm.

What drives me nuts on the sending of cards is I have to sign each one a different way depending on who I am sending to... if it's DH's family or friends that know skids I have to sign Love me, DH, Bio, SS and SD. If it's my family or friends who DON'T know them I just sign Love me, DH and Bio. I kind of think it's ridiculous that I have to include SS11 and SD12 since we only see SS once a week or so and SD once every couple of months or so, but of course my MIL made a comment about it one year, so I try to be politicaly correct now.

I have never sent out

I have never sent out Christmas cards. Just seems like there's really not enough going on in our home that's Christmas card worthy...& with years of doing nothing, no one has come to expect one from us. LOL!

All the more reason for me not to start this year.

I will say when I was doing our wedding invites & "thank-you's" I would just address & do the greeting to "James & Jane Jones & Family" & the greeting would be "Dear James, Jane, & family"