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The Disengagement Diaries, Part 2

ThingsFallApart's picture

Aside from my SO pissing me off, my evening of disengagement is going well. I did slip when I got home and alerted SO that SS was disassembling his wagon. I kept my mouth shut when I would normally chime in. Pretending to ignore them is so rewarding. I think I am going to love watching this circus sideshow.

My SO is going to have a hard time dealing with this. Right now I am the primary caretaker of our biokid. SO has been so "busy" all week. Tuesdays are supposed to be my day for me but SO asked if I would mind if he switched a day with SS to take him to a baseball game on Tuesday. Being a nice person I gave up my day and stayed home with our infant. Then the rest of the week he was too "busy" and I never got a day. Now I am just tired and burned out. Disgusted with the selfish jerk that's my SO. He had the nerve to say to me, "What, did you think having a kid would be easy." My response, "I don't have any problem with DS." Because SO is NEVER at fault for anything.

I am disengaging the both of them. I am so fed up with all this disrespect. SO launched into a diatribe about our neighbors asking me why people disrespect them. He thinks it's only because of their yard. I said it's because they have two mean dogs and they holler a lot. He goes on to say that people respect hard working people and I asked where my respect was! Apparently my hard work caring for our DS day in and day out doesn't qualify.

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Delilah's picture

You know next time NOT to give up *your* day, especially if its for something ss orientated. It would be one thing to do it and your SO was grateful, respectful towards you while ensuring you had replacement time/day for the one given up, but he doesnt, it appears he is blase about ALL the great stuff you do.

You know what I did when I was in your shoes (minus my own bio kid)? I placed myself as top priority for ME. So if my DH wanted me to do something, particularly if it concerned ss, I avoided doing it, said I was busy, made something up...I always ensured I had several excuses ready for such an occasion.

So not cooking for skid...not when my DH allowed him to waste the food because the skid felt like it and then gave him dessert.
I would hide my treats as DH would always give them to my greedy ss, who wouldnt share.
I gave them plenty of boy time and would ALWAYS do so with a smile.

So when SO wants you do something do as follows...big smile, really sweetly "oh sorry hun I cant, I am doing x..." even if deep down you are muttering "I will do that when hell freezes over..."