Today tops all days.....
Today i finally had enough... enough of being disrespected by the ex wife, enough of hearing i am a sucky parent, and enough of hearing how much my kids dont belong to my husband. Today i lost it... I stood my ground and unfortunately stooped down to her level and gave this woman ALL her crap right back. I constantly bite my tongue and turn the other cheek so I dont add so much stress to my husband but how much crap can one person take???? So, just for today i decided to defend myself and my kids for once... Maybe now i'm really the evil hateful stepmom... At this point there is not a part of me that gives the slightest crap how she feels about me anymore. To tell me that me and my children are in her and her daughter's way was enough... I love my SD just like I love my own and my husband knew i had kids before stepping in to this relationship. I dont expect or ask him to help with kids that arent his and i fully encourage him to ask for more time and be a good father. I defend her when hes being disrespectful to the mother of his only blood child but today i didnt care... ENough is enough on being ran over and disrespected... I thought the high school mean girl drama ends when you graduate but sadly, it doesnt.....
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No, as you say, it doesn't.
No, as you say, it doesn't. There should be a manual given to all new stepmothers and the first line should be "prepare to be hated............." What is your husband doing while his exW abuses you? he should be defending you.
For the love of all that is
For the love of all that is holy.. stop giving his EX room in your head. Why on earth do you CARE what someone else thinks about you when that person is you SO's EX? I mean, she could be telling you that you are a purple headed people eater.. but you know that isn't true right?
I don't care about people's opinions that don't care about me. Now.. your SO? sure.. I would care what HE thought about me.. but even his relatives? When relationships split.. people take sides and there is no guarantee your own family will align with you.
I would stay well away from this woman. I would block her number.. block social media.. block anyone with connections to her on social media. Let your So deal with HIS ex.... if his relatives are less than pleasant? minimize time with them to the extent you can. His kids a problem? he can deal with them.
Again... she is causing problems because she has been allowed to... you allowed her to "get" to you. I think it's time to put her on full on "whatever".. grey rock.. ignore.
Don't try to defend yourself. against what? and why? she is just spewing venom and bile.. it's not true.. you know it. Roll your eyes and ignore her. When you wrestle with a pig.. you just end up dirty.
I think that we all snap from
I think that we all snap from time to time. You are human and you have feelings, it is ok!!!! Forgive yourself if you think you went too far but chances are- she needed that verbal lashing! You aren't evil or hateful, you are a kind person that was pushed too far.
Block her and stop any kind
Block her and stop any kind of contact with her. There is no need for you to have anything to do with her. And let your DH know you expect him to make it stop - ie, stop engaging with her and listening to her badmouth you. He needs to stand up for you and protect you.
It's a beautiful thing when
It's a beautiful thing when you show someone just how irrelevant they are in your life. Don't engage her and make sure your H is shutting BM @ss down every time she feels the need to talk about you. She's a non factor in your life and you have to treat her accordingly....I hope your H is supporting you and making this fact known as well.
I dunno sometimes it's highly
I dunno sometimes it's highly effective. I have messaged BM2 twice this year. Once in March, asking her to stop being a ho with my DH and just be SS's BM. The second time asking her to stop encouraging SS to lock his devices as he's a porn addict. Both times proving that DH does not keep the b.s. she sends him a secret.
Haven't heard from her since. Well, DH hasn't heard from her since. Not even to wish him a happy birthday in October, which she had NEVER missed before.
Sometimes it works.