Hmmm, let's see. I have had 2 step-moms and 2 step-dad's...hated SM #1, (I was young and she was a bitch looking for a sugar-daddy)...SM #2, married Dad when I was 17. Love her most of the time (good advice giver), she is a great SM often, but still married Dad for money.

My two step-dad's, Mom married #1 when I was 12, he was like the dad I never had (never saw much of my real dad growing up) and #2 was okay, he just didn't fit in with our family. Mom divorced both, so that makes her a 3 time divorcee. Men suck.

I guess I prefer my 1st step-dad over everyone. My current Step-mom can be a little conniving and keeps my dad from his kids sometimes, so she pisses me off a lot. She has to be in the middle of everything. Ugh...

I've always called all of my step's by their first names.

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I am a SD too.

My parents divorced when I was very young. My father had cheated on my mother; however, my mom assumes her share of blame for the demise of their marriage. My dad married the woman with whom he cheated on Mom. My Dad was extremely well-off by that point and my stepmother was not. I think my stepmother was a really good actress and fooled my Dad into thinking that she is this nice, loving person. Once he married her, he realized he was wrong. My stepmother has bashed my mom in front of me, told me things would have been better if I had never been born, called me "baggage from my Dad's past" to my face, and treated me like an outsider.

My stepdad is just the opposite. He is one of the nicest guys I have ever met. He came with 3 kids from a previous marriage and we have all become close friends. It didn't happen overnight, but it did happen. My stepdad was divorced his childrens' mom, and she and my mom established a close working relationship for the sake of my stepsiblings and have continued that relationship for the sake of the grandkids involved. Needless to say, I much preferred Mom's house over Dad's, because everyone got along and the environment was more harmonious.

My mom never badmouthed my stepmother to me growing up. She let me come to my own conclusions about her. I have forgiven my stepmother and am courteous to her when I see her. I've always been courteous to her. My experience with her has made me want to be the best stepmom I can to my SDs.

My parents separated when I was 4. They divorced when I was 6. My dad remarried when I was 8. I called her by her first name. She was not my mother. I felt like she tried to be my mother and, as such, was met with resistance from me every time. She tried to discipline me, when my father was around and I resent my dad for allowing it. It wasn't just "go to your room", it was wooden spoon, etc. Nope nope nope. Not cool. I was never beaten or disciplined to harshly...just by the wrong person. It wasn't her place and I felt that strongly as a child.

At 14, I moved in with BD and SM against my wishes. I felt like I was an outsider in the house. I got in trouble for alot of things in the house that I didn't do. When I was trying to explain myself and I didn't do it...I was "talking back" and got in more trouble. Nice...

My mom never told me not to call her mom...or said bad things about her. SMs actions caused my feelings.

My dad and her divorced when I was 18.

I called my stepdad dad but he raised me from when i was 8 months old, but once i knew he was not my bio dad i called him satin, I hated the man not because he wasnt my father but because he was a mean abusive man. I had another step dad whom i love to this day he came into my life when I was 18 and I call him Papa even though my mom has passed away I still call him papa, so I guess in my life it depended on how you treated my, both of my step moms that I have had I call them by their first name, but it has nothing to do with male or female, it is because my mom raised me I only saw my dad EOW and I would not call that raising a child, so I only called my mom, mom and my step moms were by their first names, maybe things would have been different if my dad raised me, but i love my mom very much and am very happy to have been raised with her:)

I have had two stepmoms from my dad and one stepmom from my mom (my mother is a lesbian).

My mother and her partner always tried to get us to call my mother "Mom" and her partner "Momma." My sister, who was 3 when my parents got divorced and my mom started seeing this woman, caught on and called her Momma. I was 7, and I always called her by her first name. Her son was the same age as me but he called my mother "Mom." She was nice enough I guess, and very smart which I highly respect (she had a PhD) but I didn't like her. My mother and her partner never came forward and told us why she was REALLY moving in, they told us they were "friends" and that it would save money to live together. I resented the fact that they lied to us about their relationship and that was the main reason why I didn't like her.

I have called both of my stepmoms from my dad by their first names. I was 10 when I moved in with my father, and he was married to SM#1. I did not like her. She was much older than my dad and already had a grown kid. She didn't sign up for being a stepmother (when they got married, the jury was out on whether my dad would ever see us again) and that sentiment was very evident in her actions and attitude. She resented me and I resented her resenting me. They got a divorce a year or two later, and my dad met and married SM#2. She is amazing - the mother that I never had. She is the most awesome stepmother I could ever hope for. But, I still call her by her first name.

I don't think that how old I was made a difference in my relationship with my stepparents. Also, I don't think it mattered which bio parent the stepmothers were attached to. I think the relationship mostly depended on their attitude toward me and how they handled being a step parent. I would have liked my mother's girlfriend if they were honest about the situation. My SM#1 did not want to be a stepmother, and that's why I didn't like her. She never ever said that, but I knew. Kids are pretty intuitive even if they don't have the words to express themselves.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

I was about 2 when my parents split.I only remember ever having my step dad in my life. My mom and him married when I was 4ish. My dad (stepdad) adopted me when I was about 6. I always called him dad.

I am a Step-Child.

My parents divorced when I was 7 years old. My father then remarried not to long after.
I always had a very good relationship with my SM. I did not call her Mom.

My father is a dick, pure and simply put. I have not spoken with him in over 15 years. He wants nothing to do with me or my family or his grandkids.

My mother has since passed on but she bad mouthed my dad for many years even after I was long gone out of her house. She never re-married.

My step-mom and Dad divorced when I was 17. My step-mom and I reconnected 2 years ago after not seeing each other for 17 years. We still have a wonderful relationship and enjoy lots of time together.

This is how I know about the games being played by SS, because I played them to. }:)

Never a failure...Always a lesson

You can throw me into the mix of stepkid steptalkers. Both of my parents remarried within a few years after their divorce. My mom being the first after 2 years to a man that I knew since I was a kid. I was almost 15 at the time. My dad remarried when I was 17 to a woman I never knew or heard of until a week before the wedding. My brothers nor I were invited to the wedding.

I refer to both stepparents by their first names although I have a number of colorful ones to describe my stepmother. Needless to say that relationship has always been strained. My stepdad wins the medal of being a really cool guy. I had a rebelious year following a move to my 3rd highschool and the court battle my dad and stepmother sucked me into to to try and get custody of my youngest brother. My stepdad stood by our family with all of this hell and he never blamed me for it.

I had a stepfather. Since I was 2 until I was old enough to get the hell out of "his" house. I haven't spoken to him in over 10 years. I addressed him by his first name. They tried to force me into calling him dad but I refused and kept calling him by his first name.

He is pure evil. My former therapist recommended I don't wish anything bad upon him so I'll just leave it at saying he's pure evil.

"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland

I WAS a step daughter... which is how I found Step talk... I was fed up with my THEN stepmom. Since then, my Dad has left her. I didn't have a Step Dad until I was an adult... He was ok. He and my mom lived 500 miles away, so I really only saw him on holidays. They are now divorced. My dad now has a new wife... she is WONDERFUL! I love her dearly and her kids. Of course I am 31 years old now, and I handle a lot of things differently than I did when I was 13 and my Dad moved in with his girlfriend. I hated her for 18 long years... and now I am blessed with a wonderful, understanding... beautiful stepmom, that loves and adores my Dad like he deserves.

I guess I was about 13 or 14 when I met my Dads second wife... it was very quickly after he left my mom. I was young, and my head was filled with crap from my mom about how horrible my Dad was, and what a bad person my step mom was... well, she was right about the step mom. Although she had nothing to base her opinion on other than step mom was the other woman. My dad had no custody over me... my mom wouldn't allow it. She just got lucky in the fact that she was right about what a bitch my step mom was. She still is... a bitch.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~

i don't really think of myself as a step-child because my parents were together for 35 years before they divorced and each remarried. Because I was an adult when they split and remarried I just think of them as having new spouses that I try to view more as friends.

My mother's husband (I don't use the terms step-father or step-mother, I think those are reserved for steps who actually participate in raising a child) is a very nice, warm man. There are times that I wish that he HAD been my father. I call him by his first name but my children call him "Papa XXX" The title of "Grandpa" is reserved for my dad.

My father's wife is very much like him, distant, aloof, reserved. In her case though, there's a huge side of crazy to go with all of the reserve. I've never had a huge problem with her but we don't see eye-to-eye on most things so we just avoid each other at social functions and keep to herself. She does love being a grandma as she never had children of her own even though she really wanted them. So I have to give her the benefit of the doubt for that reason alone. The kids call her "G-G" as the title of "Grandma" is reserved for my mother.

I was a SD who was PAS by my SM

Its a long story, even though my Dad has not been with her for a long time, she caused a 20 year rift in our family. I have a half-brother and half-sister who I am a decade older than and had actually reared them for a few years. My brother fell down the stairs in a walker when he was 9 months and sustained a serious brain injury. As a result, he is in a special home and my ex-SM is his Guardian ad Litum, so, no matter what, until she dies, I will forever have to deal with her. She was mean, abusive to ALL of us, treated my Dad like dirt under her shoes. She has since moved on to make another man (the same age as me!) and his kids miserable.

My Dad recently lost his current spouse of 10 years. She died peacefully in October of lung cancer. She was a sweet loving lady who adored my kids.

My Stepfather was in the picture from the beginning, I was 5. We called him by his first name but also referred to him as my dad. My dad was my "real" dad. He stood by my mom through the worst crap from SM as possible and never wavered once. He absolutely loved being Grampa to my kids.

My Mom and Dad did not fight or put down each other but my SM did. Since I lived with my mom until I was 14 and brainwashed and guilted by SM to move in, I was very uncomfortable with my SM's abuse. I knew it was wrong, I just didn't know what to do about it.

We all smile in the same language

I was like 2 when my parents divorced.
When I was 7 my mom moved into these apartments, and always used to call the guy down stairs "The hot neighbor guy"
The hot neighbor guy had a crush on my mama too!
So after two years of living in the same building, they started dating. They dated for 5 weeks and then got married, now its been 9 years.
Ive always called him by his name...
Love him to peices too.

You guys won't believe this...

My real dad died in a plane crash in 05' (his own plane) he was only 60 years old...

Well, dad had married...get this: 9 TIMES IN HIS LIFE!!!? Can you believe that? My mom was #2 and the "longest." I NEVER called one of his "new" wives, "Mom"...why would I? As soon as that might of happened, he would have been married, again!

My real mom never married again and is happily living with her partner of 25 years...

My parents divorced when I was 2, my mom remarried when I was 3 and my dad when I was 4. I do not know why my parents divorced, I never asked and don't care. In fact, I don't even have any pictures of them together, which also doesnt bother me. My steps have been part of my family since I can remember, and I am perfectly happy with that I have always called both steps by their first names (since I already had a mother & father in my life), and have always loved and respected them both! My SM is 12 years younger than my dad and my SD is 5 years younger than my mom. They have been remarried for 25 and 26 years and I am very close to all 4 of my parents Oh yeah, and my in laws

"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"