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Being ignored by FDH family

theoutsider's picture

Submitted by theoutsider on Thu, 07/04/2013 - 3:03pm

Again, ignored.

FSD8 and FSS10 rode on FDH's SIL's float in the parade. I dropped off the two kids to ride on the parade, and FDH's brother and his wife completely ignored me. Then as FDH, FSD12, and I are watching the parade. FMIL and FSILs(2) come walking up, then stop short when they see I am with FDH and FSD12. All three ignored me the entire hour long parade....

They ALL used to talk to me, have regular conversations with me,.... but not anymore, not since a little less than a year ago when I moved in with FDH,...
Officially, we have not yet announced that we are getting married. But lots of people around here live with each other before they get married, so I don't think that's it...

His two sisters have voiced that they don't like the way I talk to the kids. FDH has stood up for me saying I have done nothing but help the kids,... and actually him telling them to shut up about it might have even made it worse,...

Argh, I don't know what to do. And I don't want to come into a family where I am ignored and treated like this,...

Does anyone else deal with this??

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realitycheckmom's picture

Submitted by realitycheckmom on Thu, 07/04/2013 - 4:23pm

When FDH and I moved in together his mother lost her shit and got both BMs to show up and she ignored me for them. She loved me until we got serious. She badmouthed the bejesus out of them. Then when she realized her son was not going to be her built in girlfriend and wanted his son she shunned me and had everyone else do the same.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Thu, 07/04/2013 - 6:58pm

Your DH is an ahole to allow it, believe me I know...my DH was an AHOLE too...fight it or put up with it...that's all I can say. Thankfully, eventually my DH got it...but honestly, I wasted too many years waiting for it and would never advise anyone to do that...

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Submitted by hereiam on Sat, 07/20/2013 - 9:17pm

My DH's mother had already passed when I met him. His dad adored me but he has passed now also.

DH's oldest sister is truly something else. Her and I had been friends for 10 years before I met DH, and when we got serious, she flipped her shit. Became buddy buddy with BM, who she claimed to hate for what she did to her brother, and started resenting me. I am the best thing that has ever happened to DH but, God forbid, he be happy. I think she actually preferred he be with a loser, it would make her look like the best woman in his life.

She's no longer buddy buddy with BM but our relationship has never been the same. And I'm ok with that. It did hurt at first, but I guess her true colors finally came through. Unfortunately for her, her and DH's relationship is not the same either, and that is her fault.

My husband prefers my family, we rarely go to his family's anything. In his words, "they are best loved from afar."