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Child Abuse Case That Struck a Nerve

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Thu, 04/15/2010 - 10:25pm

This is not news. However, it is news to me.
It struck a chord for me as SS9 went through something somewhat similar while DH was deployed. Thankfully, MIL saved him.
This story demonstrates the root of my anger with BM.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/7727641.stm

http://media.causes.com/564357?p_id=79575200 (Facebook link ... I think)

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sun, 04/18/2010 - 9:49pm

I have been thinking about this case a lot lately and it fuels my anger toward BM and how she treated SS9 for the first year he was born. I am grateful that my nosey MIL went to visit and saw what she was doing to him.
To this day, I don't understand how a judge can side with an abusive mother and blame it on post-partum depression.

My sister said something very wise yesterday since I was so disturbed by this story. She said "you need to hate or be angry at least once a week. Why? Why do you have to have fuel? Why can't you be happy?"
I don't understand this either but she is right. Why do I have to hate? Why do I have to feel anger? I am not a Christian sap but I do believe in a higher power - it makes no sense to me that humans would be the most advanced forms of life when the child abuser (as in the link posted above) exist. Why can I not forgive this woman? Why am I still thinking about some little boy who I had nothing to do with?

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 8:33am

THAT's what I am saying! And the worst part is, MOTHERS are always given the benefit of the doubt. But stepmothers are villainized all over the news aren't they?
In this case, did you notice the emphasis put on the boyfriend? Yes, he was a damn monster, but the MOTHER let it happen, even smeared the child with chocolate to hide the bruises ...
And there is nothing I CAN DO ABOUT THIS. This is why I come here to vent. I feel so powerless to the law.

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Tue, 04/20/2010 - 8:45am

At the end of it all, I believe that death was the best thing for this child because nothing on this earth saved him.

I have a friend who is a CPS Officer. He is unable to hold down healthy relationships and has nightmares. He is a good guy but he looks 50 and is only 35. He has been doing it for 10 years with breaks in between. He said you reach burn out real fast.

I posted this because I too think of it all the time and it struck a nerve.

I didn't mean to ruin your day though ...