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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:02am

Earlier this week we had some really sad news.  YSS had been doing really well recently but on Tuesday when DH could get him on the phone he called the police and asked them to do a welfare check. Unfortunately they found that he had died.  He was in bed so we think that he had an epileptic seizure. 

 

DH is devastated. I’m really sad too. 

YSS and I couldn’t live together but I still loved him. 

- he cold sell ice to eskimos

- he was kind to the unfortunate 

- he loved his dad

He was 22

If you have a minute please spare a thought for his father

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:11am

Tog

thanks for your kind words

TASM

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Submitted by barbKarin on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:16am

i'm so sorry. I know all too well how it feels to lose a child. It will be difficult for a few years. But eventually, life does become ok mostly. Keeping you guys in my thoughts.

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:20am

Thanks

This is very hard for DH but he is taking comfort from the fact that YSS was happy and doing well with his life choices. 

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Submitted by Indigo on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:16am

Sending a quick prayer for strength for your DH & {hugs} to you.  Sometimes it's difficult to separate those ambiguous feelings of love and disappointment over past behaviors when someone dies unexpectedly.  I wish that I had some wisdom to help you navigate this period, but I don't.  I am so sorry for your loss.

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:22am

Indigo

Thank you.  YSS was doing so well recently. DH is taking comfort from that. 

It is still hard but DH is the #1 priority for now

TASM

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 10:27am

My condolences and sending you and your H peace, love and light during this time.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 11:39am

I am so sorry to hear this. I was really rooting for your SS and with the new job he seemed to have turned things around.

My deepest condolences to you and your husband. My DH also lost a son to a sudden death. Please feel free to pm me if you'd like to talk about it.

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Submitted by Thumper on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 1:09pm

So sorry to read that your  SS has died.

I went back and read some of your older posts. Your family has been thru a lot.

There are no words during times like this.

I am sincerely very very sorry.

May you and Dh find moments of calm to remember the life, the love and the Spirit of all that was joyful and good about his son.

 

 

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 12:29pm

Thanks for reading our history. It means a lot. And thanks for your thoughts 

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Submitted by Major Blunder on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 1:10pm

I somehow missed this earlier, I'm so sorry to hear this when he was just getting himself turned in the right directions, I can't imagine the grief your DH must be going through but he is lucky to have you there to support him through this.

I'll pray for you all through this time of loss, it may be of little conselation but YSS is no longer burdened with seizures and is I pray in a better place bathed in love.

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 10/13/2018 - 4:16am

Thanks

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Submitted by Gwynnafaye on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 5:27pm

I lost my son two weeks ago.  He was 23.  My heart goes out to your family.  Be strong for your DH.  He will need you in the weeks and months ahead.  Take time to take care of yourself as well.  Much love to you.

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 10/13/2018 - 4:17am

Poor you. The pain of the loss is awful. I’ll keep you and your family in our thoughts 

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Submitted by TheEvilStepmomS... on Thu, 10/11/2018 - 6:07pm

(Relatively) new here, but it hurts my heart to see this. Hopefully you and your family are doing ok. 

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 10/13/2018 - 4:17am

Thanks 

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 10/13/2018 - 4:19am

Coooookies

Thanks. DH is having to be the strong one while the rest of the family collapses. I’m concentrating on being theee for him. 

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Submitted by notsobad on Fri, 10/12/2018 - 10:44pm

So sorry to hear this.

Big hugs to all of you. Just be there for your husband. Let him talk, let him rant, let him tell you all the things he/you/SS should have done differently. Just be there and listen. Hold him. He'll need that.