Sorry, it's been a while since I've posted, but things have been going pretty well since I've totally disengaged. This one has just thrown me for a loop...

We drop SS13 off at BM's every Monday at 7pm. SS13 is on Winter Break now (as well as BM and I) and wanted to stay over at his friend's last night. We tell him that it's up to his mom, since it's technically her night and he has to call and ask. Well, as usual, she won't answer the phone. It's been raining and flooding here for the last three days, so neither one of us are keen on dropping the kid at BM's house when she isn't even there, so we let him go ahead and stay at his friend's house, with messages left to that effect on her house and cell phones.

So SS13 is wayyyyyy behind in school. Progress report was the F's, a D, and a couple of B-'s in electives. SO spoke to all teachers and made arrangements for him to bring home a grade check each Monday. Bringing it home on Mondays means we will get to see them each week, since we do the switch off with BM on Mondays at 7pm.

The first Monday he's due to bring one home, he calls and says he's going to stay one more night with BM, because he didn't get to spend much time with her since he was at sleepovers all weekend. Righty-O LOL

OK, so I've decided to try and disengage, as skids only resent me when trying to help parent them. SO and I discussed it and he wasn't real happy about, said he didn't want to "give up" on his kids. I explained I wasn't giving up on them, but that they have two parents and it's their job to do the parenting. I told him I was no longer going to bug the kid about school work, room cleaning, all the normal stuff... that it was now solely his responsibility to handle all of these things, just as it would be if I weren't around.