We I married my wife my step sons were around 7 and 8 yrs old. They were okay kids. Now their 23 and 21 and I've totally had it with tolerating them. I don't even like going home at night because there they are with their ungrateful sourpuss faces.
I really used to feel bad when I had a hard time loving them. Now I can easily say to myself and trusted confidants that I actually hate my stepsons.
My wife took over the reigns as disciplinarian when the step sons entered their teens and she quite quickly got sick of confronting them. Then the years began when she just let them say and do whatever they wanted.
My wife and I have been very successful and progressive as far as money goes. But my wife as taken the path of least resistance when it comes to teaching the baby men anything. She has also spoiled them entirely. She has a lady clean their rooms once a week and do their laundry. When I became too old and tired to cut the grass , she asked the boys to do it and they refused. Without my approval she hired a man to cut the grass. She new I would be furious about it but she did it anyway. She would rather do ten rounds with me about how ridiculous it is that we have to hire a grass cutter than to be tough enough with the boys to get them to do it. Its a chore they never have done. They don't wash dishes or clean up after themselves. I never ever ask them for help because I hate the attitude they give me.
One of the man babies ended up getting a certificate in a really good line of work and will likely do really well. But he still has said that he will live at home as long as possible in order to save money ( at our expense of coarse ).
The other is a laborer and will never be anything more. He recently got charged with speeding and will likely have his insurance rates sky rocket so he wont have the funds to move out. Leaving us no choice but to let him stay a few more years.
I want my marriage back. I want my life back. I plan on talking to my wife over dinner and explain how unhappy I've been lately with the two man babies and their attitude and lack of plans to become independent. I'll try to explain to her that I want to repair our marriage and put our happiness as a married couple first. This means giving the baby men a timeline on when their moving out and sticking to it. I refuse to put up with them indefinitely. Its causing me real sadness.
I came to contribute to this sight by typing into google "I hate my Step sons " . I was pleased to find a forum on which to vent. I have truly had it with my step sons , baby men moochers. I want them out of my home. Why should a man work his whole life to end up living with people he doesn't even like much less love. The baby men don't have any respect and gratitude for me at all. In fact Im certain they hate me as well. Not that I fucking care. I've never met such assholes in my life. Theres nothing much to like about them. Only a mother could love those two.
Please feel free to comment. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. I plan on speaking with my wife over the next several days about target dates for the boys to move out and letting go of the cleaning lady , as far as the baby men rooms go.
Thanks.