Well, I had a long talk with me "dear wife " last night. I opened the conversation by saying our oldest man baby , age twenty two , should move out by the time he's twenty three. So on or before his next birthday he is to move out.

She got very defensive and said we should give him more time. But in the end she did say that we would talk to him together and inform him he is to move out by that time. Its not going to be an option , its going to be a requirement.

I had to pay a high price during this discussion. When I told her that its been hard for me living with two men who don't respect me or are in any small way grateful towards me , she tore into me like a lion into a zebra. She pointed out all my mistakes over the last decade or more and made me feel an inch high.She said I was selfish and self centered.

Having my step sons respect me and be grateful towards me , in just a small way , is contingent upon my wife being grateful for me having raised the two baby men along side being a devoted husband.

All three of them have very short memories. What memories my wife chooses to remember are not positive ones.

One small sucess , one more slap in the face.
Signed - Swimming in gratitude.