So I Did Some Research .....
In my previous blog, I mentioned that with sd21stb22 , she kept saying about how DH could ring here now, she can take calls, DH can ring her NOW, etc, etc !! And how I smelt a big fat sd faced rat ??
Well, I did some research, well, actually, not that much, because DH was already pointing me in the right direction with this behaviour...
1. DH didn't ring sd back over the weekend, or the next, or the next.... VERY strange, as usually he will be picking up that phone as soon as she tells him to !!
2. DH rarely lets his phone out of his sight, hmmmm, I mean, I know people carry their phones on them, but when you are home, don't you put yours on the side, on a table, etc ??
3. Doesn't even send sd an email back, as he usually does....
Well, I don't say anything, just watch..... Then I have an opportunity DH left phone on table and I checked.... Yep, he is using his phone to ring sd from, her number is there, and he did ring her from work....
SECRET CONVO SH** again !!! SIGH !!!
So, I tell him, what I found....this isn't about sd, but , of course, DH feels defensive and swears, it was just happened and he talked for her for only a short time and they talked about nothing important.... HAH I BET !!!
We talked about what we discussed before, how it is disrespectful, blah, blah, I swear I sound like a broken record, the same discussion AGAIN and AGAIN ?? My DH is an intelligent professional man , yet, he becomes like a deaf mute when we discuss this stuff !!
He promised me before he would only use our home phone to ring the skids on, he seems to be able to manage it with younger skid, and it's not like I listen to the convos, I leave the room when he rings them.
I think he thinks this is a silly petty thing, and I think he just thinks, oh Sweetnothings, will be mad for a minute and then she'll settle down after I make all the right noises, hehehe, like a kid !!
If he was making secret convo calls to ANY other FEMALE AND hiding it from me, etc, believe me DH I would STILL be pissed off !!
Be careful, for what you wish for DH, as another little chip of respect has fallen .... And don't think little Sweetnothings, has settled down, uh, uh, I'm just regrouping......
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Hmmm. Why do you forbid him
Hmmm. Why do you forbid him from talking to his kids except at your house? I could see BM. But not the kids?
I have to be honest…if my DH told me I could only talk to my kids when I was at home, I would flip my ever loving lid.
I would probably divorce my DH if he told me that too.
sn, i know the feeling.
sn, i know the feeling. whenever either skid, mil or sil calls, dh can't get to a secluded place as far away from me as possible to have his little secret conversations. anybody else and he'll make sure he's right up my ass talking as loud as possible to make sure i hear everything. i guess he truly thinks i believe it's just a coincidence that he runs for the hills and hides to have his private talks with the home wreckers (i just love whoever came up with that term for skids ~ it applies to my mil & sil, too)
If you have read my past
If you have read my past blogs, you would realise why I, and a lot of other SMs are coming from. I didn't just demand these " rules " , there is a long history that got us here. In the past secret convos was leading to DH sending secret money to sd, while lying his ass off to me, perhaps you would consider this okay behaviour but I did not .
If you read crazy in my post, fine, I was letting my frustration pour out, my DH is the classic guilty Dad, and the skids and HIS weird behaviour about and around them is the ONLY thing we argue about, well, apart from the remote maybe twice a week !!
SAME HERE: " the skids and
SAME HERE:
" the skids and HIS weird behaviour about and around them is the ONLY thing we argue about"
and mil and sil. we don't even fight over the remote.
Willow, we live in a
Willow, we live in a different country, we don't see the skids that often now, also, the skids do not contact him or want to Skype or anything with him. My DH NEVER wanted to talk to the BM, so that was never a problem.
We are approaching the end of CS and DH paying for sd through her three year course, so I think he is being hit a bit harder with the guilt stick he allows sd to whack him with.
Starfish, my inlaws sided with sd's lies a few years ago, so they are not a problem to us, DH saw their true colours and has stepped away from the crazy.....
Stepaside, yep the problem
Stepaside, yep the problem with these secret convos popping again was that in the past they went hand in hand with secret money being sent.
I am so glad I am disengaged from sd's crazy, but the money situation can still annoy me.
I really do think that something has happened in recent years, that these adults think it is perfectly alright to have hardly no relationship with DH, yet still guilt him hard for money, and I'm talking hundreds and hundreds here not just pocket money !!!