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Submitted by sweethoney on Tue, 12/14/2010 - 1:06pm

I got alot of feedback from my last blog about how pissed everyone would be if their name was still on the house, and I thought about how I don't even really like living in a house my DH bought with his ex sooo.. I talked to DH about it all and we put the house for sale in the paper and after a month of it being in there we are going to talk to a realitor and get the house sold asap! That means most importantly she will be off the loan and us paying off the loan will boost her credit, and down the road when we are both financially ready we can buy a home that is ours not a hand me down home from the ex-wife. I really think that it will help my resentment issues with everything, and it showed me that my DH is willing to give up something because I want him too (til this point it's been all about what he's wanted blah blah blah).
Also I am finished with the ex wife, while his son is here I will go see my family and he will take off work or find a daycare I do not really care which, I am finished with my life revolving around his ex wife and SS it stops now. I feel so much better starting from scratch, going back to renting and getting my life back :), now let's just hope it sells so we have a little extra left from it.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Tue, 12/14/2010 - 1:15pm

Congratulations!!! I'm so very happy for you Smile

There would be absolutely no way that I would live in the home that they had shared together. It would just exasperate the issues with the children acting like I'm some sort of interloper. Aside from the "your not my mom" comments, you'd also get the "this isn't your house" bit. NO WAY, NO HOW would I be able to deal with that.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Tue, 12/14/2010 - 1:25pm

I am happy that your DH is being supportive. I would NEVER EVER live in BM's former house. Even if it were free.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 12/14/2010 - 1:46pm

Good for you. Wish we could move out of here. Only saving grace for me is that she left and has a house of her own. I am not on the mortgage since he is not on mine. I didn't want to sell my house with the market and now since things are so difficult am glad I didn't. But, it is rented out and there if this marriage fails. I should have pushed harder to sell this one, but, now I have redecorated everything and it is starting to feel like my house. He didn't want to sell since the kids feel this house is their home. Mine is starting too as well. But, the minute that they are gone to college, this house is on the market. I am done, with being so close to BM.

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Tue, 12/14/2010 - 4:11pm

Good job! We did the same thing for those same reasons, and we LOVE our new house together. We've been here for 2 years now, and whenever any territory issues came up with SS7, I made it crystal clear that this is not *his* house, but it's *our* house. That shut him up very quickly. It solved a lot for us, and as a couple we're both much more happy with it.

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Tue, 12/14/2010 - 4:38pm

Congrats!! I hope to do the same in the next 2 years. BM is still on the house.

DF thought "scaring" BM might help to get her name off of it (she refuses to sign the quit claim deed). He told her that with our baby coming and more bills, that it'd be in her best interest to get her name off the loan, as we've been struggling to make ends meet. Late payments on our mortgage would affect her credit. (Although yes we're struggling, we haven't made late payments for real, they've been on time...just thought it might help to get her to do it.)

Her response... "My credit's already wasted so I don't really care."

Talk about a responsible person.