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Submitted by Sweet T on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 9:31am

I am so excited, my husband's gift has arrived. We got him a signed Reggie Jackson ball! He is going to love it. Bs was so excited when I told him I found one.

Obviously I am ignoring the declaration my ex made about mother's day and fathers day. I believe step parents that are involved in the kids lived deserve to be acknowledged, my house, my rules, my money so suck it.

I will take bs like I do every year to buy his father a gift as well as I always do.

My husband goes the extra mile daily for b.s. and I and we love and appreciate him.

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Submitted by thisisnotmocking on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 12:49pm

Sweet!

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Submitted by Luckyone on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 1:15pm

My kids are getting my dh a gift too, and nothing for their own POS dad.

I wish they had "Happy Father-ish Day" cards.

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Submitted by Totalybogus on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 1:24pm

I used to buy for my husband when the kids were small and take him out to dinner. Then they got older and I let them buy their own gifts for him, but still took him out to dinner. Now, I don't even acknowledge it because he has NEVER acknowledged Mother's Day

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Submitted by Sweet T on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 3:28pm

In all the years we have been divorced bs has bought his dad and now his step mom Christmas, birthday and fathers and mothers day gifts. All around 20 to 30 dollars. I have received 1 mother's day gift a wooden box he had bs paint from Michael's. Probably$5.00 total. I cherish it because my son made it and was proud.

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Submitted by Gwynnafaye on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 4:01pm

I remind my kids to remember their bio-father for father's day, but it's up to them to do what they will for him. Same with my skids. I remind them to remember their mother for Mother's day, but again, it's up to them. If they don't do anything, that's on them, not me or my DH. I do help, and my DH helps, to buy gifts from the kids for each of us for Mother and Father's day because we are a family, and we each appreciate the contribution to our kids' lives. BM and ExH are not our family. They are the kids' family. My Ex is the father of my kids, but as he said when we were married "You aren't my mother." He's not my father, so I'm just giving him the same consideration he gave me. I don't see anything wrong or PAS in what Sweet T did.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 7:53pm

OP's SS's SM is quite free to help her SS make/buy whatever she pleases for her husband for their Father's Day celebration. Just as Sweet is free to give her husband , her son's stepfather, whatever she pleases to show her and her son's appreciation for all SF does for the child during the year.

Some SM's resent the BM for buying gifts for Dad. Some deem it as now their responsibility to take over that duty in their house. Sweet T is making sure that her son honors his biological father, just as she made sure her son honored and showed appreciation to SM on Mother's Day. Did she go crazy and buy expensive gifts? No, what she purchased what her son saw in a store and knew his SM would love . Just as Sweet T will take her son for a gift for his father.

It would actually be inappropriate for Sweet T to spend lots and lots of money for a Father's Day gift for her ex. It's not her father , it's not her husband and the gift is suppose to be from her son to his father. It's not about how much money Sweet is willing to spend to make Father's Day special for her ex husband. I'll assume SM will do something for Dad in her own home , and if not I guess Dad will just join the ranks of SM's who husband's don't acknowledge them on Mother's Day. We have blog after blog here on that. I'm always sure once Sweet's son is old enough to earn his own money, all gifts from him to his mother and his father will be actually from the child.

Sweet's ex didn't even think about Father's Day until his son showed up with a gift for SM on Mother's Day. Suddenly it occurred to him that Sweet will likely honor SF on Father's Day and he declared his self made rule of 'let's not do that'. So obviously Dad didn't help nor see to it that he help his son purchase a gift for Sweet on Mother's Day.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 11:14pm

Be loves his dad very much and knows my husband is not a replacement. He also knows that both his step parents love him and how lucky he is.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Sat, 06/03/2017 - 11:11pm

Well pas is certainly not my intention. My ex is a prick and doesn't do anything for me. His older children do not buy him birthday, Christmas or father's day gifts but I make sure bs gives the man who has been abusive mentally and physically a gift. His wife does not take bs shopping for these things either which I did when my stesons were little.

My exes birthday was last month and BS have him a MLB bobble head. For fathers day I generally make suggestions and then he picks. I am planning on suggesting a MLB t shirt or I have seen a MLB welcome mat that I know he will like.

Bare in mind he still owes me for the baseball tickets for him and his wife for bs' S birthday and has never thanked me for any of the gifts and his only acknowledgment was his email after bs have SM a mother's day gift telling me that our spouses should not be acknowledged for those days just us since we do all the work. This is rich because he never parented when we were married or now.

The baseball ended up being 70.00. My husband has never hit me, kicked me in the head or pinned me up against a wall so I am more inclined to spend a little more on him as his gift plus it is from both of us, the exes gift is only from bs.