And so it begins...now that BM has a new boyfriend she has begun her manipulations to change visitation times. It started with her just changing all the dates that she entered into the OFW calendar without notifying DH and then telling him they agreed to follow that calendar (they didn't) and that those dates had been on the calendar for over a year (they were added on October 23rd according to OFW). 
 

She has since had some very important "work" trips that necessitated changing weekends (yeah, we're still under restrictions here due to covid and the governor has ordered people to work from home, but BM's locally-based work requires lots of travel all of a sudden). 

This last weekend, BM asks DH on Friday if he wants to extend his weekend to Monday. DH says "let's keep our schedule" because he has things to do on Monday and I don't want to deal with two high schoolers while he's gone. So, Sunday rolls around and BM texts both skids saying the power is out at their home and she's also "stuck in the snow" at her boyfriend's house. So, both kids ask if they can stay overnight. No word do DH...also the power is not out at her house (that is easily verified) and the place she is supposedly stuck got minimal snow (less than 4 inches) over 24 hours prior to her message and at the time she sent the message had rain and 40 degree temps. BM also posted a pic on FB around that same time of her driving in the snow (to show off her new hair) - we're not connected on FB, this was a publicly posted pic.

In response to SSs telling DH that they have to stay because BM won't be home, DH sends a message on OFW saying if you are not going to be home, you need to let me know versus going through the kids. I don't want to leave them at an empty house for the night.

BM's response "you didn't care about their safety when you dropped them off early" that one time over a year ago. Um, okay BM...keep bringing that up. That was the time SSs insisted they needed to be home early to go to a birthday party. Because BM doesn't share anything with DH, she did not mention this birthday party and the kids didn't bring what they needed to go to said party. BM insisted she had to "rush home" from being away with soon to be ex husband #2 because DH was so inconsiderate. She built a whole mediation around this, claiming DH was a terrible communicator and needed to verify things with her first....when in reality, she always responds with "it's not my responsibility to tell you" or to say that Skids were mistaken any time DH contact her to verify anything. She brings this up every time that DH sends her a message to clarify anything with her that SSs have said. He even said in the mediation that he should have verified the birthday party, but he didn't think to do so, because kids telling him about changes to their visitation time on BM's behalf was a regular occurrence.

Anytime DH contacts BM to confirm anything and asks her to communicate with him instead of with the children, he gets the "what about that one time.." response and again no confirmation on what is needed. Also, after DH's message, BM miraculously made it home to a house with power where the roads were clear.