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Maybe BM doesn't want to be "friends" - LOL

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Mon, 09/16/2019 - 6:36pm

As you may know if you've read my past blogs we are in the midst of the continuing saga of BM desperately trying to convince DH to go to counseling with her because, according to her, SS is so sad that she and DH can't be friends. 

Last weekend, DH brought SS to his football game. SS had to be there an hour before the game, so DH staked out his spot with other SS. BM arrives, DH gives her a friendly wave, she scowls at him and walks on by. Later in the game, she motions to other SS to come over to talk to her. He does and she asks him if he needs a blanket. He says no, he's fine, and goes back to sit with DH. 

At the end of the game, BM and her husband walk by and ignore DH. 

I have to laugh at all this, because BM always insists that she and her husband go out of her way to be friendly to DH. Also, she has been literally crying about the fact that DH is not friendly to her, yet when he is cordial to her, she snubs him.

She's so juvenile...and just proves time and again, why I made the right decision in ignoring her entirely. 

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Mon, 09/16/2019 - 11:22pm

I wonder that myself, although really BM never would have filed for divorce if she didn't have someone else waiting in the wings. 

If I really wanted to be skeptical, I would say that she filed for divorce just to see how much DH cared about her. I think she honestly expected him to pine away for her forever and was shocked when he moved on and found a good life for himself. 

From the beginning, I have wondered what her husband thinks of all the mental and emotional energy she puts toward DH, her ex husband. DH still seems to be such a huge part of her inner world. If I were her current SO, I would not be happy. He seems to be a bit of a con artist, so he's probably perfectly fine to be with someone who is still emotionally attached to someone else...as long as she pays for everything for him and his child (her SS). 

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Tue, 09/17/2019 - 1:01am

"I think she honestly expected him to pine away for her forever and was shocked when he moved on and found a good life for himself."

Yep, that's the BM2 I deal with.  DH was always supposed to be her Plan B if things didn't work out.  Well, they haven't worked out and she tried to get her Plan B back.  Boy, is she now raging that I'm around and have permanently taken her option off the table.  All my fault of course...nothing to do with the mental and emotional b.s. she's given him for the last 20-something years.  Nooooooo.