Tonight, SS calls DH and asks if he can pick them up tomorrow for visitation weekend. If anyone has read my past blogs, they know that BM is supposed to drive SSs to our house on the Friday of visitation weekends, but always has some excuse as to why she can't or some reason why she thinks DH should pick them up. With all this in mind, DH tells SS, "I can't, but your mother can just bring you by later." SS replies that she can't because she left for Mexico that morning. So, DH emails her through OFW and says, "if you are unable to drop the boys off because you are going to be out of the country, I would appreciate it if you would let me know instead of having our child ask me." DH also asks if SSs are going to be staying home alone overnight while BM is away. 

BM replies and says, "If it's really a big deal that they be dropped off, I can arrange for someone to do it." And then goes on to say that she has the kids ask because she prefers not to communicate with DH. She also tells him that it's none of his business what the kids do at her house (duly noted, BM...will remember that, the next time you demand to know what goes on at our house) and 15 is old enough to be left alone overnight (for an entire week?). 

Then, because BM can't resist, she sends DH this long message about how she's bought Skids a car and once they can drive it will be their choice if they come to DH's house (DH already told them they don't have to come, BM has now insisted, because she has a new boyfriend and wants them out of the house EOWE). She also talks about what hard workers they are and how they've been saving up money for a car (the other SS, I guess, who will not take the car that BM bought for them). And how BM will match whatever they save. They don't work, so not sure how they are saving all this money other than the "allowance" BM gives them. 

Then she tells DH that one SS is already being scouted for a golf scholarship and "the only thing he wants is to go to university and play golf." Too bad what really happened was that the coach told SS that if he played well, he might be able to go to the state tournament and college scouts would be there (this was how it was relayed to MIL by BM)....not that SS was already being scouted. I've seen him play...he's okay and better than high school kids who haven't taken a million lessons (like he has), but he's not a phenom. Skids live in a working class town (and the team plays against other working class towns), so there aren't that many kids who have had access to golf lessons, unlike the affluent towns nearby where kids have been going to fancy golf tournaments since age 6. Also, too bad SS only takes remedial English (currently reading at a 6th or 7th grade level in the 10th grade) and therefore could not go to any state schools in the area because he doesn't meet the entrance requirements and would not likely score enough on the SATs to play college sports. Also, too bad, BM badmouthed and publicly named the manager of the local golf course on the community FB page because she was convinced that he wasn't allowing high school matches because he was too interested in money. She basically copied and pasted their email exchange where she accused him of lying about how "current health and safety requirements" meant he wasn't allowing high school golf tournaments and how she was happy to help him secure sponsorships because "clearly this was about money." 

BM was telling DH all this because she wanted to say that she was "proud of" SSs the implication being that DH is not. This was all in response to nothing and DH will not be replying. I'm so over this woman and so over her children who come into my house and tell DH he is "lying" based on her word and badger him for money because he "owes them" according to BM.