So I have 3 bios 13(f) 12 (m) and 9(m) 9yo has autism and is at special school so needs lots of extra support in lots of ways . Ss(17 almost) has mild asd. Now , we have a 4 bed house so at the moment dd has a room ds x2 share my room and SS has own room for one night per week. Bedtime is becoming an issue in the week when SS isn't here as ds12 has homework etc and ds 9 is in a routine of 8pm in bed the older ones now I'm saying 9pm homework then relax without tech then bed . It would be so much easier if ds had own rooms and then just used the pull out bed at weekends and shared the one night Ss is here as its not a school night and it would be a novelty probably like movie night or whatever HOWEVER  SS is not willing to give up his bedroom and let ds use it for the 6 nights he expects his empty bedroom to go unused 6 nights a week he takes all his stuff him with him as he is terrified someone else would even touch his precious bag containing all the cans of coke he stashed and candy !( from BM she won't quit even tho he has significant tooth decay and no enamel )

Dh hasn't said much but then his backbone is eroding anyway so should I stuck from and switch them ? Ss will probably make a big deal out of it and play the I don't wanna come card as per usual but I don't give a c#$P !

IN OTHER NEWS      Weekend went ok apart from SS searching through my drawers and cupboards for soda and candy ( I hide myself diet coke I'm on slimming world it's my treat thing and he knows it so he searches when im in the shower) sat drinking it grinning boy if that was ds or dd is have whooped their backside. Also doing a running commentary via text to BM ! Refused to shower shave and anything else but I've disagaged so he can stink for all I care. And I refused to change his sheets and told him there's no point as he doesn't shower so it's a false economy .

Ss did agree to let me tell him with homework at the request of Oh so I did him along with the other kids and he wasnt rude but then he knows he has a test and its Macbeth so he had little option as BM is not bothered.

Again refused to move the 12 cans from under his bed I'm letting them accumulate then dh can see the extent of the addiction to soda, he had toothache all weekend I looked and the teeth are eroded now i advised no soda but Ss said yeah right so as usual disengaged and said carry on then!!! Oh tried to tell BM but she wasn't bothered just slammed the door when he dropped off so not my circus not my monkey. I will end up with a toothless rude Ss before summer!!! 

Rant over phewww feel so much better now !!! As always the group has given me the confidence to be upfront and honest with DH and state my position. 

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