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Struggling stepmum's picture

Submitted by Struggling stepmum on Sun, 08/18/2013 - 6:47pm

After all my plans I was informed yesterday by H that as SD13 officially is still his full time responsibility (she went to BM a month ago) he has as much right legally to stay in the house as me. At least until she is 18. I have yet to confirm with my solicitor but my online research backs him up. How can after 15 years of supporting this house I be expected to hand it over to him and worse the SD that started all the arguing in the first place! Does anyone have any knowledge about this?

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Lalena75's picture

Submitted by Lalena75 on Sun, 08/18/2013 - 7:09pm

Document that the child isn't residing there, call the solicitor and fight back screw what he thinks defend your rights.

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Submitted by Struggling stepmum on Sun, 08/18/2013 - 7:17pm

It was my house but when we married he put a lump sum ( not near half value though) so he can claim that. But uk laws I think protect the family home for kids till 18. I already have a solicitor but due to the weekend I have been unable to clarify. My kids are 9 and 1 so I thi k they should take priority but I doubt the law will back me. I am hoping he is not going to do this to us. But I'm worried as I've asked for divorce that he may use it to bully me. Should I just go now? I honestly don't know what to do

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Submitted by learningallthetime on Sun, 08/18/2013 - 7:53pm

I think your DH may run into trouble based on the fact it is not your mutual daughter - just your SD. If the BM has a house for the kid then DH does not need to take yours. This rule (From my understanding, but I was in a US relationship, despite being UK citizen) applies to the parents far more than step parents. You may be OK as your house before, and she can go to BMs. Especially if school is not in house area.

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Submitted by Struggling stepmum on Sun, 08/18/2013 - 7:58pm

Oh that's good to hear. The school is in both our area. We live in close proximity. She would have to share with her two younger siblings though. Hope there's not a suitability law that will mess it up. Because we are married my house does pretty much become his in the uk unless he didn't financially contribute to the household which he did. The fact that u owned it pre marriage doesn't seem to be legally relevant just morally.