Has accepted that maybe, some men ARE stupid, including my OH!
So yesterday he says that his boss has asked him to do nights for the next couple of days....this means a 24 hour shift today (start at 6am, finish day job at around 5 ish then an hour later start the evening shift until 6 tomorrow morning)...he will come home, take me to the hospital then go home to sleep before his next night shift......all fine, Im more than ok with it, we need the money after HIS indiscretions......anyway, we normally have SD7 on Tuesday nights for tea and a visit, then gets dropped off home for 9pm.....well, as OH is on the 24hr shift, it wont be happening....again, one of those......so then OH ATTEMPTS the guilt trip.......
"Ive got to work for a couple of nights" he said...
"Oh well, its work at least though hey?" I say...
"Yeah, but as YOU said, we need the money, but it means I wont see SD7...sigghhhhhhhh" he said
"Well, yes, that is a negative, but yes OH, we need the money at the moment" I said
"Yes, but Ill have to sacrifice seeing SD7 though wont I!?" he said
(WELL HELL YES YOU DAMN IDIOT COS ITS YOUR FAULT WE NEED THE MONEY YOU BLOODY MORON!!)
"Why have you? Whats the problem with swapping the night to Thursday?" I said.......seriously, why is this such a drama!?
"Well, I see me mate every Thursday dont I and Ill probably be to shattered as Ive got to do the Weds night and Thurs day...sssiiiigggghhhhh" he said
"OK, so find a different night then OH! Why dont you get in touch with BM and ask if you can have her for few hours tonight instead then!?" I said...again all the time wondering, why the OH is making such a drama out of this!!
"Oooo yeah....let me make a quick call StressedStep.....see what I can sort out!" He said...
10 minutes later, OH calls me back, "yeah, we have SD7 for a bit tonight babe".....Oh, so the nasty BM who your mom is trying to talk you into taking to court for either custody or CO has allowed you to change a night at such short notice, without argument!?......
AND then....(refer to yesterdays blog!)....MIL calls OH last night, OH explains about the nights and such, MIL is like "Oh, so you wont see SD7 then!?" in an almost telling off kinda tone (I know right!?)..OH explains the he asked to re-arranged and BM obliged....THEN....OH sneaks off to the kitchen to continue a private conversation with his mom!!!??????
Im beginning to wonder if OHs ENTIRE family are a picnic short of a picnic, rather than a few sandwiches!!!
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lmao I love that, hes moaning
lmao I love that, hes moaning that he wont see his kid but he cant change his visit with his friend on a thursday either. Nutter.
MIL is probably trying to convince him that BM is only allowing to swop the day to prove that he is inconsistent and if he works so much more then BM will take her away for good! Or some other bull that your MIL comes up with.
Some people are crazy but you handled good, hopefully he will learn not to get your finances in a mess.
MIL needs to back off,
MIL needs to back off, because if she pushes him to the point of court, all hell will break loose!! He will lose SD7, cos BM will open a whole host of whoop a** on OH that dear old MIL knows NOTHING about......hell, maybe she should read my blogs!! It will be the worst mistake OH ever makes if he listens to MIL, and that is ONLY because of OHs own indiscretions.....BM knows about them to a point, because they also happened when OH was with her....and now he has done them whilst being with me.....she will bring them up, she will fight them, and in the meantime...she will stop BOTH OH and MIL from seeing SD7, which she has every right to do and NOTHING OH and MIL do can change that...BM will drag it out as long as possible whilst all the time poisoning SD7.....
But hey, OH is a mommys boy.....so on his own head be it.....
Thats the thing, if BM was
Thats the thing, if BM was such a meanie she wouldnt allow him to swop times. Heck our BM isnt a meanie but she sticks to the CO so there is no switching times, no extra time, its what the CO states.
Sometimes you have to acknowledge when to push and fight, and when youve got the best scenario out of crappy circumstances.
I hope for all of you that he actually listens to you
OH can pretty much pick and
OH can pretty much pick and choose his times with SD7...there are no COs in place at all, and I have already explained that if he goes that route HE AND MIL ARE BOUND BY THE SAME CO!!...none of this swapping lark or changing times will be allowed, BM will be more of b*tch than she is now!!
OH gets the opportunity to swap times, change days, and most importantly he can get extra days as and when he chooses, within reason and little notice to BM....if he goes this route, he looses it, and it will be MILs fault...
as you said SecondGeneration....."the best scenario out of crappy circumstances"....
See...now im waiting for this
See...now im waiting for this to be thrown at me this weekend!....
OH just text to say he is working both Saturday and Sunday day....we have SD7 Saturday/Sunday day this weekend.....and as its me who has said "we need the money"...whilst forgetting who caused the lack of funds and why....I will be expected to take care of SD7.....to be honest, thats fine and dandy with me...SD7 has a bedroom to pack up and empty so it can start being decorated for new baby, so it kinda helps me out really! :-)....
Re MIL.....she ALWAYS does that....he did about 4 weeks of nights a few months ago...and she had a go at OH cos he wasnt seeing SD7 on the Tuesdays! :jawdrop:
Well...Im sorry, but my home, its bills and its running costs DO NOT revolve around SD7 MIL, so get a grip! lol