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Submitted by stressed-mom on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 7:49am

UPDATE from: http://www.steptalk.org/node/135524

It happened. After being holed up in my room majority of the day Saturday hiding from nosy, bratty SD8. I snapped. It was bad. And what pushed me over the edge?... threading a damn needle to sew a hole in DH's work pants. Yup. I think I was just so damn pissed over every thing SD8 has put me through the last couple weeks and the fact that all I wanted was a nice quiet weekend to spend with my DH because we haven't had anytime alone in forever.. that I just snapped.

Lots of yelling. Lots of "yous" and "I" and never a "we". Me and DH never really fight. We have our little moments but in the last 4 years we have only full blown, balls to the wall, fought maybe 3 times. This was one for the book. The ring came off. I was so upset.

Needless to say, Saturday ended with SD8 going to her grandparents. It still wasn't that great of a weekend. DH ended up having to work and I ended up helping him, but I think my point was made.. at least for now. There was a lot of "thank you for helping me today" yesterday, which I really appreciated. Probably after the "I am NOT SDs bitch!" comment it kind of opened his eyes. (SD8 has picked up this screaming my name from across the house because she needs me to hand her something that is 2ft in front of face shit. She does it 10x a day, and Im pretty sure she picked it up from DH, but it never bothered me when he did it until now.)

Just an FYI.. yes, SD was playing outside during all this.

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Submitted by stressed-mom on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 9:03am

Apparently, she could be acting like such an asshole because she doesn't have him all to herself 24/7. She is not an only child. This to me seems like it kind of gives the other kids reason to act out. "Hey if we are assholes, dad will take us shopping." #1 There are 2 other children he never keeps home to "spend time with" #2 He fell asleep after like an hour and pretty much stuck her with me anyway. I don't get it. #3 Shes not being an asshole because she doesn't have DH's undivided attention 24/7, this kid has ALWAYS been an asshole. She didn't even want to stay home. I don't really know what his reasoning is/was. He kept saying "well, we're going to have some serious problems with SD8." (Shes mouthy, lies, steals, She is an attention seeking, 8 year old with the maturity of an infant... she just sucks.) I'm like "No, YOU already have serious problems with SD. I don't have nothing. Kid can sit in her room until hell freezes over or she has a serious life epiphany for all I care."

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Submitted by stressed-mom on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 9:17am

I know right. My thing is DH used to NEVER be like that. He would NEVER let her act like that and then do something nice for her. That's why I am so confused too. Why in the last month has he insisted on keeping her home to do nice stuff with her after she has completely acted horrible. If you're going to keep her home, keep her in her bedroom, punished for acting like a moron.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 9:36am

Has there been one of those conversations between DH and his kid that you dont't know about?

I think at least once in every lifetime a kid (step AND bio) play that "I hate you" (or some other silly, saying-this-to-make-you-feel-guilty) statement. I just find it interesting that some of the dads tend to take it to heart from their daughters.

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Submitted by stressed-mom on Mon, 04/22/2013 - 10:05am

As far as I know there hasn't been any conversation. DH usually tells me stuff like that. Even if there was.. I can't believe he'd play this guilty dad, but I guess I wouldn't blame him if he did... to a point. I just think the whole situation has gotten out of hand. SD8 is pain. Her attitude and behavior consistently get worse. It will get better for a day or two here and there then just back to normal. The way this kid at 8 can get into the face of a grown adult and scream at the top of her lungs is freaking crazy. I fear this child as a teenager.