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Submitted by still learning on Sat, 05/13/2017 - 9:48pm

At work today a man in his late 20's came in to buy flowers for his SM. He insisted that I help him pick out the best freshest ones and one that I would buy for myself. I was a bit taken back because this was the first act of kindness and love I have witness towards a SM in many years.

I hope all of you SM's get the recognition you deserve this Mothers Day! Apparently there are thoughtful skids out there.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Sat, 05/13/2017 - 9:57pm

Awe that's sweet!

For my Mother's Day surprise, SS's teacher got him to fill out two Mother's Day artworks. When SS brought both sheets home I couldn't tell which one was mine. SS5 had put half of me on both pages. Things like "favorite memory together: going to Disney world" on one paper but then on the other it said "favorite colors: green" BMs never taken him to Disney and her favorite color has always been blue and black. SS handed me the paper with BMs name on the back and said "here Max I made this one for you--see I colored your hair and gave her a black purse just like yours". Meh. Owell. I gave BM the one the teacher labeled instead of what SS said, and as I figured, as soon as he saw BM he was showing it to her like it was always hers. Lol These incidents make me chuckle. He's such a people pleaser.

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Submitted by notasm3 on Sat, 05/13/2017 - 10:15pm

I know several people who adored their SMs. My BFF treated her SM better than the SM's bio daughters did. Her father married her SM after her mother died when she was about 30. She was about 60 when her SM died ( several years after her father's death).

Another friend's BM left her to be with another man when she was very, very young. She never saw her BM again. I never knew that her "Mother" was really her SM until many years after I met her.

Another young woman lost her BM (death) when she was 5 - yes it was traumatic. But she loved her SM and when her bio father decided to be an ass and have an affair when she was 20 she totally bonded with her SM not her cheating father.

Not all stepchildren are disgusting POSs.

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Submitted by still learning on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 6:54am

"Not all stepchildren are disgusting POSs."

True. I find it funny how I'm surprised anytime I hear someone say "SM" in a sentence and it's positive rather than disparaging. 5 years of dealing w/a disgruntled adult skids has left me a bit jaded.

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 1:56am

My son's SM lives with him in the US and I'm in England so I posted on FB and thanked her for being so awesome to my son. The way it should be.

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Submitted by sunshinex on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 9:10pm

My SD made a few little gifts in kindergarten. She gave me a pretty picture and a flower pot she painted. The picture had all sorts of questions about mom and were clearly answered specifically about me. She didn't make anything for BM (or even mention BM today, come to think of it). I've been pretty emotional all day because 1. i'm pregnant and 2. this is the first mothers day she's made the gifts for ME, not for BM.

I've been full-time since she was 2 (she's 5 now) and BM barely sees her, so it used to hurt seeing her make and hold onto things for BM even though I was the one doing everything day in and day out. But I always understood. But today really was a turning point for us and our relationship, I think. I feel as she gets older, she's realizing what "mom" actually is.

It's been a great day. I hope everyone else here had a great mother's day, too.

xox