OT - Freaked out part 2
I wrote a few days ago about a stranger at my door and the police coming.
Well, I let a few of the neighbors know about it so we can all watch out for each other and some of them have husbands that work and they have small children. I also have an elderly man across the hall from me that lives alone so I wanted to let him know.
Well, it turns out that the one couple I let know - a really nice young couple in the armed forces - had been talking to that guy as well. He keeps coming over to their apartment and knocking on their door to borrows things - a hammer and nail, and then lotion! Each time, the big army guy answers! But the wife already had bad vibes about this neighbor and when I told them, she was even more concerned.
After I told them what happened they did a little of their own "investigating" since the questionable neighbor had given them his CD (go figure!) . So they went online and looked up his profile of his music and came across the guy's real name. Pull it up on the internet and find out...
This guy has been arrested and in jail for a home invasion!
I'm seeing the landlord tomorrow because they still haven't put the deadbolt in. Luckily, I'm dropping SD off to go to camp for the week, so at least I won't worry about her for a week. I have a friend who's boyfriend is a police officer and also found out that my neighbor across the hall also has friends who are police officers. So we are going to have his background checked into a little more.
But I'm completely and totally freaked out now. It's 2 in the morning and I can't sleep. I have to take SD over to meet her bus at 6. And DH is gone for a few more weeks, so I'll be completely alone. I was so looking forward to being alone in my apartment too... and now I'm scared out of my dumb wits! I do have offers to go and spend the night at my friends, but I really was looking forward to staying all alone!
And now I'm crying because I think it's all just getting to me. I told DH what is happening, but I'm trying not to worry him too much. DH has already commented that he thinks I'm not taking it seriously enough! But he knows me so well, I think he's not trying to scare me too much back and he's being as comforting as he can from across the country! I also told SD just so she can watch herself and be aware... but it's the same thing. I certainly cannot let her see me worry. I think if I did that, it would scare her a lot! Plus, I've already been crying a little to DH over the phone because dealing with SD alone and BM sometimes can just be so overwhelming, and now this. Oh yeah, and my stupid cut that I had to go to ER for is fine - what a waste of time!! If it had only stopped bleeding after 2 hours, instead of after 5!! When it rains it pours, right?? !! 
I know that this is really off topic, but I do feel very alone right now. And I know that the reality is everything is really fine. I have good neighbors (except for 1!), SD is going off to camp and I can go out with my friends to bet on horses at Saratoga!!, and I have a wonderful husband, who is working so hard. This area is really nice and not completely secluded. I know I can handle this. I guess I just needed to cry this one out over here with my friends at StepTalk!!
Thanks for being here you guys! I'm going to go back in and try for another stab at sleep!
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Oh Honey that is to scarey!
It's a good thing, a GREAT thing, that you did not open that door the other day. Pepper spray, a knife close by, a gun if you can get a license, even a tazer..........do what you have to do to keep yourself protected. I wouldn't trust the deadbolt with everything. There are more precautions to be taken right now I think. PLEASE be careful when going outside, and please do not go outside alone at night time. I know this all makes a scarey situation even scarier, but you have to understand the "potential" here. If this guy has already been in jail for home invasion, he may just try it again. Don't ever feel silly for being safe. And you need to get safe. Get off here and go to the store and stock up on protection items. Buy a bull horn. They even sell key chain ones that you can take with you anywhere.
As you know DH is law enforcement and has had me in my fair share of self protection classes. I suggest you take one. PM me if there is anything I can do to help!
~all you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust...and sometimes a machine gun~
Holy crap, Stick!
This is terrifying. I second everything SMJ says above. Can you and the other renters talk to the landlord about this -- perhaps if he's harassing people he can be removed from the premises?
It's even more terrible that this has to happen while you're alone. I'm sure you're being safe, Stick, but the psychological strain must be very hard. Do whatever you need to do to feel safe. I'm sure you'll feel much better when the deadbolt is installed. Do you have a peephole in your door? If not, you should demand that, too.
Maybe you could have a friend stay with you for a few nights until you feel calmer?
HUGS!!!
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
Oh man, that is scary....
I would print out the article and let the landlord know - that is why you need that deadbolt installed pronto.
I would feel really afraid as well. BB has a good suggestion. Maybe staying with a friend until they are actually able to install the deadbolt would help ease things for you.
that's really creepy
I would talk to the landlord and demand the dead lock be put in asap. Take care of yourself. I hope that guy stays away from everyone and doesn't cause problems for anyone
Thanks ladies!!
I'm actually getting some things ready for the post office and I'm going to stop by the main office here today. The other tenants all want deadbolts too! We all exchanged phone numbers and are looking out for each other, which is a nice feeling!
It's a good idea to print out the article. I'll do that too, now, before I leave.
I feel somewhat better now. I think it was just the night time and just finding out all that yesterday. Plus, we are gearing up for some drama with BM, soon, I think. I'll find out more this week as I see SD's counselor while she is away at camp. Right now, I'm kind of just mentally preparing myself every time I leave...
The young Army couple served in Iraq and they had told me stories about the enemy and how to change up your routine. Not park in the same place, don't come and go at the same time - vary it up by even 15 minutes earlier or later. Things like that. Just knowing that they lived like that - in a country so far away. For now... that gives me the strength to say - okay... buckle up. This isn't anything like THAT! I just won't watch any scary movies when I'm by myself! And I will definitely be more alert. I also liked the bullhorn idea! A knife or gun scare me. I have a feeling that it would be taken away from me - even if I put up a good fight.
But thank you ladies. I really appreciate the support. I felt very alone and scared last night and was REASSURED today by getting your responses. !!!
I can't tell you how much it means to me.
Well that....
chill down your spine was dead on when he first knocked on you door.
I don't want to stress you out more but it seems as if he's trying to see who all lives in each apartment. which apartment has men living there, which are single women, which are elderly, etc. I would be extremely blunt to your landlord about getting that deadbolt in ASAP.
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