Here's a vent for you..
I cannot stand when I hear people... friends..... members on this website... co-workers, etc....
VENT, COMPLAIN, B*TCH or otherwise consistently are unhappy in situations where EVERYONE ELSE is wrong, at fault, not listening etc etc... and the speaker is "right".
NO ONE is right 100% of the time.
We cannot read minds. We cannot always determine what others' motives are or are not. Sometimes, people do have good intentions, even if they have been sh*tty to us in the past. Sometimes our anger prevents us from admitting that or even acknowledging it. A good example of that is SD over here. Her mom has in the past few years, gotten her tickets to a play for Christmas so that she and SD and her aunt and cousin could go. It's become a little tradition for them. This year, her mom bought the tickets and SD thought it was manipulation to see her. Maybe it just was a Christmas gift that she has usually gotten and SD enjoyed??? SD went and had a great time!
Chances are... if we see something one way, ... and our family, our SO's family, our immediate circle of acquaintances including co-workers of all parties, BMs, BM's family etc. IF ALL OF THEM have one opinion, and we disagree... Chances are we're wrong.
I'm so tired of people being convinced that THEY ARE RIGHT and no matter what anyone else thinks... those people are wrong because they just don't get it, don't understand, don't live it, have it better than me, "I can't because..." "I won't because..." blah blah blah
If you are 100% convinced that you, and only you, are 100% RIGHT... then I'd be willing to bet money that you're not.
There's a vent!
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True. I think it's easier
True. I think it's easier for people to see faults in everyone else, and not themselves. I know that's true for me sometimes.
That is when you just shake
That is when you just shake your head and move on.
I'm always right, most of the time.
Eh... whatever... I'm ALWAYS
Eh... whatever... I'm ALWAYS right...... JUST KIDDING.... JUST KIDDING..... I'm in a mood and couldn't resist typing that!!!!!!
I was wrong, once... but
I was wrong, once... but then it turned out I was right all along.
I do agree with you though Stick. We tend to assume the worst out of people... I know I do.
DISbelief~
~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~
Agreed Stick. It's all based
Agreed Stick. It's all based perspective. I always try to put the shoe on the other foot before deciding wholeheartedly to condemn someone...no matter who it is.
There are very few truelly wicked people out there. If they're doing seemingly wicked things its usually a driving force of some real hurt and fear.
Other times you're dealing with someone who feels 100% vendicated just the otherside would. That makes for a unharmonious situation.
And just because one bends it doesn't make them weak. Pick the battles, remain tolerant, and see with the "enemies" eyes. That is definition of true strength and wisdom.
I agree Stick. I try to
I agree Stick. I try to remember this when I think Wingnut sucks and dh's family has no clue about what I go through with Creature, but I am grounded by the fact that dh and I are on the same page and I talk to a therapist every 2 weeks and he thinks I am on the right path and address issues appropriately. Of course, Wingnut and dh's sisters and step-mother fit in the category of "I'm never wrong" so that explains why we can't get along. lol! That being said, I know I have room for improvement, as well.
StepChicka - I think Wingnut truly is evil, but I can step back and think to myself "If I were her and made it to 40 years old with the whole world catering to me because I threw a temper tantrum if they didn't and then suddenly my husband of 18 years decided he didn't want to cater to me anymore and left me to fend for myself after never having lived on my own before, I'd be scared as hell and might act like an ass". Fortunately, that will never happen to me because I can take care of myself, but Wingnut moved out of mommy and daddy's house and into with dh and he treated her like royalty and never argued anything she said for 18 years and then after a significant life event decided he wasn't a doormat and started expecting her to accept that he had an opinion. that didn't go over well and she totally tarted out. I don't condone it, but I understand it, I guess.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
I tend to try to believe
I tend to try to believe others are right...til I have enough evidence to tell them they're wrong:) (sorry...couldn't help it). I get what you are saying, not sure where it came from but I get it. *************************"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."
"If they sold clues at Walmart,I'd be first in line to get one for DH" ~the lovely Jbee~
Ladies - thanks for
Ladies - thanks for listening to my vent AND making me laugh along the way! Too funny!
*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***
Who is to say who is wrong &
Who is to say who is wrong & who is right? Everyone is entitled to their own feelings. & if someone or something is making you feel uncomfortable then that can't be right. I think everyone on this site has different perspectives & views & that's what makes everyone different. Sometimes it's just nice to vent or to actually get some outside advice. People on this site have judged me & said some negative things at times but that's ok. I joined to get others opinions & I enjoy the site no matter what!