I started dating my husband about 5 years ago. He was seperated from his wife of almost 25 years. His wife was a narcist with a personality disorder and did a lot of damage to his selfesteem and brainwashing over the years of their marriage. There are so many things that my husband doesn't even realize that he is screwed up from his marriage to her, but I fell in love with him and I chose to marry him. I have paid for her mistakes for years.