Ok WHEW, that number I saw on the phone bill that just showed up last month is SS19's gf's number and it looks like DH texts and calls it so often b/c last month I cut ss19 off of my phone plan so he uses his gf's phone to stay in touch with DH. I am so RELIEVED. This morning while DH was in the shower I used his phone to text it and ss19's gf answered and since I knew her voice I right away recovered and said I wanted to get in touch with her so I could take her out for icecream or something since her and ss19 miscarried their twin babies last week (one was tubal and one in uterus and so she had them surgically removed/miscarried). It's sad but a relief and knowing it's her phone and not DH's ex gf is a relief too. I am glad I didn't freak out on DH over this and make myself look like a stalking fool (tongue in cheek). I am also glad this girl miscarried b/c she is not really a very mature girl, tends toward drugs and is only 18. She's sweet but just not ready for kids, nor is ss19. I heard last that they're living together as room mates just to pay the bills but not bf/gf anymore. SS19 wanted to move in here the other day but DH said no b/c of his chemo treatments and us moving into a smaller place next month.

Ok, just wanted to update you all. I hope one day I can learn to trust my dh. I guess a bad 18 yr marriage to a man who had affairs with other men makes for a bit of a skittish me.