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Football season, sore cold butt, not my kid, zap me up oh Great One!

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:39pm

Ok, there comes a time in a woman's life when all she can do is sit there with her jaw dropped and wonder how the heck DH can make such a crazy request. Ok so here it is, ss16 has been training this summer for football season. He is planning on playing this fall right? He missed last year but has played every year since kindergarten and DH has coached every year too except last year b/c of cancer. So he is telling me about how ss16's playing but his school this year has alot of their games away from home, it's an every other year thing. So I am sitting there looking at him and he says ok so since we will be driving to different towns, etc. we'll want to take your car since it's cheaper on gas and we will buy a nice team blanket to cover up with, bla bla, and I am thinking holy shit, DH is really honestly thinking that I am excited about watching ss16 play and looking forward to driving all over the country side to other schools to watch. Now I know where DH is coming from b/c for two seasons I tagged a long to watch ss19 play, but I actually enjoy him play b/c he is actually a damn good player, but ss16? Hmmm, just leave it at that. So Dh is requesting, or excuse me, expecting me to WANT to drive all over the county to watch his son's team play. Ok so the only reason why I'd go is to be company for DH, but this is every Fri night for months. DANG. And I'd be fairly into this if ss16 was putting his heart into getting his driver's license and had gotten a job this summer so he has money to get himself to and from school this year since he doesn't want to go to the district school. Oh man, Where are the Alien zapper upper thingys when ya need um? Zap me up oh Great One. lolololol

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oldone's picture

Submitted by oldone on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:50pm

Simple. Don't do it.

Don't argue about it. Not open for discussion. I'm a big sports person but even I would not do that.

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 3:25pm

Not my Kid not my game to go too! I went to one game last year to see sd13 cheer and 1 game to see ss16 play foot ball.

All ready did all of that with mine. Your kid, your time. That would be alone time or girlfriend time for me.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 3:55pm

I agree! I used to be dragged along to the three skiddo's phone-it-in games where they were signed up for every.living.extracurricular.under.the.sun.by.the.BM.without.Guilty.Daddy's.consent (pat. pending)

Talk about a SNOOZE fest. The only thing that kept me awake was the burning hot hate stare rays from the BM's community who were completely poisoned against myself and Guilty Daddy from day one. That and the fact that the BM paid absolutely NO attention to the game but yapped with her BFFs (usually HER BM) during the entire game.

Oh and also the 15 minute obligatory pre-game aloofness that all three skids were required to show us in front of the BM as they paraded up and down in front of us and pretended not to notice that we were there.

After a while I s-l-o-w-l-y started opting out. It was GREAT! Saturday and Sunday mornings all to myself!

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Submitted by Goincrazy40 on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 2:57pm

I know how you feel! DH expects me to be all hung-ho about skids games. I am NOT for the following reasons:

* I have to see BM, who bitches about me if I am there, and bitches about me if I am not there. I'd rather not see her giving me dirty looks and talking about me for two hours.
* SS is not particularly good at soccer, never has been. DH thinks he is a superstar though.
* SD is ok, but her team is hideous. They lose every game, always
* SS is a sore loser, hates going to practice, and complains about the coaches and everyone on his team. DH feeds into it. I hate listening to it all.
* I don't particularly enjoy giving up my free time for the above listed reasons.

So, unless it is spectacular weather and I am in the mood to go sit outside with DH, I usually do not go! Smile

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 5:01pm

I layed down for a nap after writing this post, and DH got home just as I'm drifting off right? So I started the convo by asking him if ss is going to have his license any time soon (oh yes, he's driving every time we're out {last two times they've arrived home dh was behind the wheel; I mention this and he tells me he can't let ss drive when he is dog tired and drifting off to sleep - HUH?}), how is ss going to play football if his grades are low (oh his grades are fine), So if you drive ss 30 minutes to school every morning and back and 30 minutes to pick him up and back that's almost 100 miles daily, 500 weekly and about $100 weekly on gas and how do you plan on paying for that (I made a promise to ss16 when we moved that he could continue in his school until he graduates), I say promises are promises but in this case your promises are going to cost us $400 a month plus your time (then I will find a coffee shop to sit in for the day), Ok so you are just healing from cancer and you are going to spend 5 days a week at coffee shops waiting for your kid to get out of school (well you can take him on the mornings you see your client there), see DH, I knew this is what you were thinking all along, sterling can and will take him b/c that's what she did last spring when we moved here for a month, no I am not working my schedule around kids schedules, that is why I enrolled bs15 into the local district high school and ss16 can attend that same school (he's gone to the same district all his school years and I know for certain that this causes huge problems in kids and we saw that in your boys), no my boys' problems were not going to a different district (we've discussed this and I will not do that to ss16), so you are sacrificing 5 days a week for two school years for ss? (no just til he gets his license) even after he gets his license it'll still cost us money for him to drive.

So you see, Dh is taking from our meager income so ss can go to the same school. He claims cs will cover it but until today we've used his cs, my cs and my two job income to survive - BARELY. Now we get to fork out $400 we damn well don't have. UHG. Why do men not think things through???? Oh and don't forget football practice and expenses, gear etc. God. He whines at me every time I got visit my daughter 40 miles away.

Onefootout's picture

Submitted by Onefootout on Mon, 08/05/2013 - 7:17pm

You're struggling to make ends meet and your DH is treating your SS like a trust fund baby. Sorry.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 08/06/2013 - 7:41am

Pardon me but did your DH clone himself? Because before the skids PASed out, the Guilty Daddy I live with was EXACTLY like that. Now he overspends on liquor, overdraws his account probably once every two months even though his take home pay is $200 a week after non-arrears CS and taxes. Which isn't enough in NY to buy a homeless man a cardboard box.